Posting for traffic- normal to be irritated or hormones/anxiety

[monkeysee100]

We've just had family Christmas lunch. ILs came up quite late. They are nice people but they encourage my DC to just rip through toys, opening presents, getting them out of boxes and leaving them strewn across the house to be broken/lost/tidied up by me.

Then we have food. FIL has a stomach condition but every meal we make he dishes up/eats first, very rapidly, leaves half, leaves the table (today saying 'I don't want any more'- no thank you) then has stomach issues then has to leave. Plus there is usually mess to clear up in the loo. My DC then think they can jump up and leave the table too and before I know it I'm practically sitting alone.

They have been to us for several years for lunch. My DHs sister (they are NC) has decided next year they will hold xmas at theirs and we've just been told in a very offhand way that that is what's happening.

I think I may be overly sensitive and irritable at the moment and not sure whether I need to see about it. So not so much an aibu but am I irritated for good reason or could it be hormones/anxiety?

Nope they sound extremely rude. If your FIL needs to leave for the loo he needs to clean up after himself. The children should ask before they leave the table especially if you're not finished eating and if they're going to want to come back and eat the rest of their dinner. I'd be irritated too.

Hm I thought so.

I just feel bad for DH who did most of it. And I feel that them going to another family member next year is a slap in the face. We are contemplating going out next year x

Feel a bit sorry for FIL who probably dreads eating out if he has these toilet issues. But the rest is just bad manners. Congratulations on surviving this Christmas but let SIL have them next year, sounds like you’ve swerved a bullet.

I disagree. Sounds a bit of a cantankerous old goat, but nothing major.
Have you no spine? Why not say something at the time?

When dc open up presents, say no, we don't do that.
Talk to Dh calmly and say this and that bothers me, can you not let it happen. Next year.

Sit children down and say: grandpa need to leave the table because stomach.... but we don't do that.

Or not have them. At all?