Betrayed by my family

[LackinginChristmascheer]

My complicated family relationships have been made worse by finding out that at Christmas of all times my family are in contact with my abusive ex who I am as low contact with as possible and only deal with in relation to matters concerning DC.

It has felt before like they've minimised his behaviour. They misunderstand his intentions.

AIBU to feel upset and betrayed?

Sounds like you may have to go low contact with them as well.

YANBU.

No not at all.

Gingernaut I had been low contact but had reassessed and seen them recently. That's what makes it so hurtful.

YANBU
And you would NBU to cut ties with your family, too, if they cannot understand. Enjoy time with your DC - they are quite rightly your priority xx

Many people dont understand abuse. Many dont want to accept it happened to someone in their family, or that their assesment of someone was wrong so they minimalise it. But none of that helps you. They should be on your side and yanbu.