just found out about ex and his new life

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I know Iabu. He was a bastard. I tried to break it off so many times when I realised before I eventually got out. Cleared me out. left debts. Lied and lied and left.Was an alcoholic. Never got in touch or responded to anything - emails calls letters. Literally disappeared off the face of the earth. Left a beautiful child. Made out to everyone that I stopped him seeing the child. He Fucking walked out. Never paid a single penny. His whole family lied. We were nothing. I can't believe the things he did and now he gets to play happy families and they have a new baby - a name that he was going to call DC. for fucks sake. I know its been a long time, I know I shouldn't give a shit but I've just seen it on FB and it's just made me feel like shit.
I've struggled with raising DC myself.it hurts and I'm pissed off. I get that relationships dont work out and people move on. I get that you can have a new partner and children and that part is ok
But this .He Fucked up and almost destroyed me. I want to get on and post something on FB.. he already has a child and we exist you bastard. I know I shouldnt. I dont get how "people" like this just walk out and start over.
I just needed to vent.

YANBU to vent! Better out than in!
Block him on FB so you do not get any timeline posts about his sanitised and romanticised version of life on Facebook.

As many others have said, don't focus on him (difficult, I know!) and focus on your DS and how great your life will be without him xx

It's not happy family's his end, people who post like this knowing the ex will see it, are not happy they are trying to rub your nose in it, because he isn't happy, and the only way he feels happy is if he thinks your life is worse than his..
Instead Post your own amazing Xmas day with your child, and how happy your are.. how chilled today is and how much 2018 is so going to be amazing and the best year ever in your life.
After all your baby will be walking talking and loving you for the fact in her eyes your the best mum EVER...
We are women, hear us Roar.

Ignore TheRotweiller’s message that you were just the wrong person for your ex to be a decent human being to and take heart from how you were lucky to escape from him.

You’ve survived despite his epic twattery and are raising your son without that toxic influence. That’s a win in anyone’s book.

I wouldn’t be able to resist a shitty FB comment though 😄

Thanks everyone who has helped. I'm not actually "friends" with him on FB or any social media stuff. It just kind of came up through another acquaintance. Not on much social media and he's been very thorough in hiding so even when I did try and search him (a while ago for court stuff) I couldn't find anything.He boasted how he could disappear so his other ex couldnt find him. I think it was just the shock and anger. It has been hard.
and you're right Rottweiler maybe people do change - for the right person.. so I wasnt the right person..but then that's saying I was a bitch ? or I wasn't good enough? or my child wasn't and doesn't deserve to have a father? I was upset at coming across this discovery accidentally and the timing isn't great. Thanks to some kind people on here I realise it wasn't me. He was a narcissist - Manipulative bullying immature and could twist things to blame everything else. I almost lost everything.

oops posted too early by accident.
I know I should move on and forward. Maybe I just needed to process. Im having counselling and taking steps forward. There were a lot of things he did but Im here now. Thanks Originalfoogirl and everyone else. Today has been hard. A happy peaceful Christmas to you all.

Don’t listen to the one mocker on your thread.
Listen to the majority.

Well done for getting through the day OP.
Wishing you a fresh, positive 2018, leave all the rubbish behind.