Aibu to be falling for this man....

[MyHeartIsInHavana]

Been a single mum for 12 years. Had boyfriends, the longest relationships being 2(ish) years. I have never really mixed my boyfriend with my daughter/home life as I didn't want her to be let down if the relationships didn't last.

Soooooooo.., I've met someone. I am really into him. Been seeing him for only 3 weeks but it feels like longer. For the first time I can see us all spending time together with his little boy.
I'm trying to do things properly and not rush into sex/dreaming of the future etc but it's so hard. I really like him and I can just tell he really likes me.

Am I a crazy love/lust blind idiot?!

I don't think we should meet each other's kids for a little while yet... But how long should we wait??
I really want this to work out, I know blended families are tricky- I grew up in one... So any advice on when/how we should go about this??

Or should I just slow down and not even consider any of this for a year or so?? Just incase we get hurt?

About a year, nothing to do with you it's for the children. Until you know it's going to last it isn't fair to introduce them.

Trouble is, my daughter never sees her dad (his choice) and he had his son every weekend and at least one night and an evening in the week.
When will we see each other?!
He's had annual leave and I'm off for Xmas so we've seen each other lots this week (my daughter has spent time at 2 friends houses and his son has still been at the childminders in the day) and it's been great.

I think a year is way too long. You need to know if it’s serious but that’s not necessary going to take a year to know that. You both know your own children too and how they will react. My partner had introduced his dd on a couple of occasions to exes after only a month. I asked her what she felt ( she is an adult now) she said she didn’t think anything or feel like they were special to her and she was glad her dad had a girlfriend!

Wait at LEAST at year

Even without children involved I'd say a year is advisable to get to know someone thoroughly. Good luck.

You don't need to wait a year. That's ridiculous. It depends on the situation - you know if this is serious or not, you know if he is worth introducing to your daughter or not. If you really feel like this is going to be a real thing then trust your instinct.