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Will my DS be ok for family Christmas dinner?

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BowBow1 · 24/12/2017 17:31

We're due at my families for a big Christmas dinner tomorrow pm and then into eve for games - it's what we do every year and our family (all 28 of us) gather together and celebrate in an amazing way. Last night DS started being sick from about 8pm until midnight - I'm not sure from bug, or over excitement/ over doing it (he is very sensitive and not unheard of). He's ok today but quiet and lethargic today. WIBU to still take him to big family dinner tomorrow. I know strictly the time is 48 hours, but he is fine and eating now. I have nothing in for christmas, but got pressies. I really want us to go and I don't want him to miss his christmas day, and family want us there, just feel I might being unfair to everyone else.... advice please...

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BowBow1 · 24/12/2017 17:31

ps. DS is 6 xx

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Ellendegeneres · 24/12/2017 17:37

Ywbsou.
So so unreasonable.
My ds was sick, 36hrs later his brother was. It's catching. It's not something to muck around with.
You seriously cannot be so unfair to risk everyone else getting it

ElizabethLemon · 24/12/2017 17:40

☹️ I don’t think you can go, he may not be vomiting but he could still be infectious. I would be really cross if someone brought an ill child to my house knowingly.

I know it’s disappointing, I’m ill too and this Christmas isn’t going to be as lovely as I’d have liked but it’s just one of those things.

chocolateorangeowls · 24/12/2017 17:42

This has been going round schools, it is so infectious, I don't think I'd risk going to be honest.

onadifferentplanet · 24/12/2017 17:43

Sorry but no you shouldn't go

Blackteadrinker77 · 24/12/2017 17:43

So it would be over 40 hours?

I'd do it, the 48 is very cautious.

ItStartedWithAKiss241 · 24/12/2017 17:45

Plus you message the host and explain he was sick and when and leave it to there judgement. I’m not sure if I’d rather an ill person come to my house or a whole families worth of Xmas food I’ve bought be wasted. X

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BowBow1 · 24/12/2017 17:47

It'd be over 40 hours and if is bug, I felt very dodgy wednesday/ thursday, so think I had it. And it is not unknowingly - family very aware he's been unwell and want us there. It is just he and I. But completely get what others are saying.

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ButchyRestingFace · 24/12/2017 17:57

It’ll have been 40 hours. And if your family know and still want you to go then I’m tempted to think it’s caveat emptor for them.

What time are you planning to go? How many other children will be there, if sny?

Could you delay it by a few hours?

hidinginthenightgarden · 24/12/2017 17:57

I would go if family are happy to have you as long he hasn't been sick since last night and isn't tonight.

Kitsandkids · 24/12/2017 17:59

If the family are insisting he come and he honestly hadn't been sick for over 24 hours I would take him personally. Maybe arm yourself with baby/anti bacterial wipes and keep wiping things he touches!

f83mx · 24/12/2017 18:07

I'd check with host and perhaps as many of the others as you can and gauge responses - personally i'd have ppl round as long as hadn't been sick in last 12-24 hours, but thats personal choice.

JaneEyre70 · 24/12/2017 18:08

There is a reason why there is an advisory of 48 hours. So you don't infect others. I don't get what's so hard about it Hmm. 28 people could catch it, presumably including a few elderly relatives. I wouldn't want that on my conscience. It's one day out of 365.

StarJumpAlertTakeCover · 24/12/2017 18:09

If, like me, you have a family member who is immunosuppressed or compromised ...you would feel it was utterly inconsiderate and selfish to even consider mixing your child with others. Who on earth wants this? It is a 48 hour rule for good reason.

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BowBow1 · 24/12/2017 18:09

Ds is the youngest child, next is 11. I think they'll also be really disappointed if we don't go, I can go about 2pm ish, I was suppose to be staying overnight but have decided its probably best we don't do that.

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nutnerk · 24/12/2017 18:10

Ahh just go! It's Christmas!

Itchytights · 24/12/2017 18:11

I wouldn’t go and if you was visiting me, I would be very furious with you at your selfishness and stupidity.

It’s 48 hours for a reason and some Eden say 72 hours.

Itchytights · 24/12/2017 18:12

even

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Itchytights · 24/12/2017 18:13

nutnerk

Attitudes like yours is what makes these things fucking rife.

ButchyRestingFace · 24/12/2017 18:14

I wouldn’t go and if you was visiting me, I would be very furious with you at your selfishness and stupidity

So would I frankly but OP’s family have said they want her there.

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BowBow1 · 24/12/2017 18:14

Just to really clear family KNOW he's been unwell, they want us to go, I am the one questioning it.

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YellowMakesMeSmile · 24/12/2017 18:16

No I wouldn't. The exclusion period is there for a reason, why risk making others sick because you want to go out. This is why bugs spread so much, people being irresponsible.

titchy · 24/12/2017 18:17

If your family know he's been unwell and want you there regardless then go ffs. They're presumably all adults who have considered the consequences... If you have very elderly, babies or imuno-compromised family then yes don't risk but otherwise go!

NorthernLurker · 24/12/2017 18:17

Ignore the nahsayers op. I would go as long as he isn't sick again. Encourage good hand hygiene for everybody. I had Noro once (caught from work) and nobody else got it. You aren't going to cause carnage.

TotallyConkers · 24/12/2017 18:18

You have told them about the illness and assuming no new symptoms and you both feel well I would go given they want you to attend.