To be pissed off at DH

[EliseC1965]

Just recently been diagnosed as diabetic type 2, and I’m controlling it with diet. So you can imagine Christmas is pretty hell for me right now.
So I bought some meat and cheese (drumsticks etc) to keep separate from the rest of the food as everyone else can stuff themselves stupid on cake, mince pies and sausage rolls ( not to mention chocolate).
So I stuck a couple of drumsticks in to heat up and nip off to do something else. I come back and dh has added more for our guests, saying it’s not fair!
FFS. They can eat everything in the flaming house, and have done so, which made me hungry.
I’m do pissed off at him and he’s saying it’s my choice. What! Not to go on drugs and control my illness with diet? I’ve a good mind to chuck out the rice for curry tonight and give them all my broccoli rice instead!

Ooo, what's broccoli rice?

That sounds yummy! Link?

And yes, he's being kind of douchey but a lot of people really don't understand medical conditions.

Yanbu at all. I would tell him to get his arse our to the shops and get more to replace them as you can't have the other food.

he's an arse. YADNBU.

Shops are closed now. He said:’Why didn’t you ask me to get some when I went to Sainsbury’s?’
Because I didn’t know you were going to hand it out to all and sundry then! ARSE!

Broccoli rice is like cauliflower rice. It’s just grated and then nuked. Very nice, especially when loaded with butter.

You can cure it, not just control it by doing low carb, so well done!

Sds and ss are here(plus assorted partners) since yesterday and they’re vegan. So I’ve spent time cooking and keeping food separate etc. Bloody arsehole has now decided instead of the vegan Indian takeaway tonight (after I pored through the menu looking for stuff I can eat without a sugar spike) that they’re going to the vegan chippy instead. Which means I can eat nothing!
And then he has the fucking gall to come upstairs, because I’m too furious to sit with them, and have a go at showing him up in front of them, after pointing out that I can’t eat anything from a frigging chip shop.
I’m not going to do this again. I’m sick of being reasonable around other faddy dietary requirements. I’m sick of being told off for eating chicken periods (eggs) : that’s what I got this morning! Next time his kids come to stay, I’m going to the travel lodge and he can feed them.

Order from the take away yourself? You might have to order a bit extra to reach the minimum requirement, but you can have the leftovers for your lunch tomorrow :)

I know it's not the same, but I've had to go dairy, soy and egg free this Christmas so have been limited with what I could eat. I would have been absolutely furious if my husband did that to me.

Does your husband fully understand about controlling your diabetes with diet and does he understand diabetes in itself fully and how dangerous it can be? If he doesn't I would have a serious chat with him about it all. If he is just being an arse make sure he knows he is being an arse and that you aren't going to go out of your way for him again

This happens every time his kids come. All of a sudden I become the invisible woman. My kids are a pain in the arse though. My youngest lives with us although he’s at exh’s for another week.
He doesn’t have a clue and just thinks I’ll get better like I did with breast cancer. He doesn’t realise that I don’t want to take even more drugs and I have to eat like this forever, unless I want to end up on insulin, with my eyesight getting worse and bits falling off me.
I’m going away with ds next year. I’m not doing this again. Last year I said no kids at Xmas and they blackmailed him by crying! These are grown up kids btw, in their 20’s.

The Indian doesn’t do deliveries and I don’t drive, otherwise I would have ordered myself. I’ll just have a longer fast than usual, as it’ll bring my blood sugar down nicely anyway. But he can fuck off if he thinks I’m doing them breakfast tomorrow.

I have gestational diabetes and I think I'd punch anyone who took my limited food supply.

I literally wrestled a pack of chilli peanuts from DP whilst screeching "you lot have have fucking chocolate and mince pies and biscuits, leave the peanuts alone"

Vegan chippy....where the hell do you live,coz I need to move there

Very selfish of him, people who don't have to eat a restricted diet don't get how important / frustrating this is .

I’ve a good mind to get the steaks I bought for tomorrow (when they’ve gone) dedfrost and cook rare. Then eat with blood dripping down my face in front of the lot of them.
Or piss off to see my db in London until the new year and watch the fireworks. Lol.

I’m sick of being told off for eating chicken periods (eggs)

YANBU, although this made me laugh!

Utterly selfish when the guests had plenty of other food. Does he understand that your diabetes is diet controlled?

I had gestational diabetes last Christmas. It was fucking miserable.

YADNBU.

I hope you manage to find something decent to eat. Then plenty of water and a long walk!

He's an inconsiderate numpty.
Well done for getting to grips with T2D. You can cure it so keep going x

I’ve walked to the Indian up the road and I’m going to have the tandoori mixed grill without Naan. I’ve turned find my friends off on my phone and I’m going to eat in and take my time. Childish I know, but I still bet that he doesn’t notice I’ve left. If he doesn’t then I probably will LTB. Thoroughly sick of turning into the invisible woman, except when he wants something