AIBU about this gift from my kids to my partner

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So my kids have bought my other half a jokey football team mascot for the local team that she doesn’t support and as she drinks tea like it’s going out of fashion, a small glass teapot and a selection of different teas. About £30 worth of stuff.

I have splashed out on jewellery and perfume, would you be happy with someone that seems like an afterthought from your partners children? It isn’t really an afterthought, the youngest pointed out as something that she likes(tea).

The football mascot is a joke but she’s moving here next year and has threatened to buy a season ticket as her team is annoying her.

It doesn’t sound like an afterthought. Assuming she’s got a sense of humour the mascot is a funny present and the tea sounds ideal. I’d be happy with that from my DPs children.

Thanks onion.

I’d be perfectly happy with that.

Sounds like a thoughtful present to me.

YABVU. That sounds pretty nice to me and they have thought about her likes and see her as someone they can have a bit of a joke with. What on earth were you expecting?

If I were your kids, i’d be pretty pissed off with you right now.

A very thoughtful present - you should be proud of them

Not sure how old your kids are but in the scale of shocking Christmas presents we have to our parents over the years, this doesn't even make the list!

I think it is good that you have let them do this on their own. They need to build their own relationships with her and this is part of it.

Thanks everyone(even bumshkawah)

I over think these things a bit and my partner is feeling a bit sensitive at the moment for other reasons and I want these things to go as smoothly as possible.

I'd be delighted by that gift (I'm pretty obbsessed with tea myself) and she will love the sense of humour gift!

Sounds fine to me. You really can't compare presents from children with presents from your partner.

It doesn't sound like an afterthought at all. They've obviously put thought into it and got her something they know she will like and also a jokey (in a nice way) present.

If I got a coffee related present and a footy mascot from my dsc I'd love it.

The mascot is a bit odd if she doesn't support the team if I'm honest but they didn't have to buy her anything and she shouldn't expect anything from them so it really is the thought that counts. Teapot sounds nice and perfectly fine as a gift from anyone to anyone.

This is a WUT isn't?

Yep....thought so. :(

I'd be pretty impressed that your kids thought of buying your partner a present at all. I know families are wildly different in how and to and from whom they do gift giving, but children to parent's partner who is not yet stepmum wouldn't necessarily register as a must for Christmas present buying at all, for me. I must say I don't expect my kids to buy me and DH anything either - they did this year, but all bought us some type of food treat, nothing on the scale of what your kids bought your partner, and I wouldn't want them to spend more than a token amount on me.

I think the football mascot is humorous, but also a way of showing that your children are looking forward to her move next year - I'd see it as a sort of 'welcome to the area' present.

What's a WUT?

It's an abbreviation of 'Wind up thread' - though not sure why anyone would think this is one .

Ah. Bit of an odd wind up, not that interesting... But maybe Rottweiler can see it going in some specific direction... I suppose there is potential!

Not a wind up thread, my lovely DD has been thinking about what to get her and couldn’t get the gift she wanted to get for her so I went with her today to get an alternative and on my home I was thinking about the thread on crap gifts that people have received and I was wondering if that crossed into one of those. I’ll stop thinking about it. Thanks one and all.

Well, what's she got for them OP? Has she spent hundreds and that's why you're questioning £30? I know you mentioned 'splashing out' but surely those are your presents and unrelated to your partner's gifts.

I got my Dad's girlfriend socks and a bottle of hand wash (tbf they were cashmere ski socks as they are going on a ski holiday in Jan) and she got me a succulent tray... we didn't spend much and were both pretty happy with that even though we get along fine.

Sorry, I was a bit harsh. I just thought that if I were your child and you were criticizing a gift for someone I’m not even related to, but I had tried to put some thought into, I’d be really hurt. Not every gift will be perfect, but I think if it is obvious that someone has tried to be thoughtful, even if they have missed the mark, then then your partner would be very ungrateful to not appreciate it.

I’d also suggest that if your partner being sensitive means you have to micro manage gifts from your children then perhaps it is her behaviour that deserves scrutiny?

One person's funny is anothers 'hmmmm ok'

It's thoughtful from the kids, albeit fun at her expense. Hopefully she'll take it in good grace