To be pissed at this

[Edinburghlass1991]

Sil called me last night asking if her and bil and mil can come for xmas and stay til 27th. I explained that the food shop was already done and now was pretty skint. She said she will put money in bank so i can go back out today. I know its pretty shit thing to do and if we had more time we would not ask for it but she seemed pretty happy with it so all good. I hate going food shopping at the best of times never mind xmas eve so wanted it done asap but theres still no money ive already asked again but it still not there.
Feel like a piece of shit already cos of it.

"Dh is working today so it makes sense for me to do it"

No, it would have made sense for you to say no.

I don't believe that a shop would go off & if you can get it, so could they!

How come your husband hasn't seen his mum for so long?

Both too busy?

Hope it's not a case of him just being desperate for any crumbs of attention she throws his way.

Wow that is insanely short notice.

They've just doubled your holiday 'work' = cooking, cleaning, entertaining, etc. Make sure your 'guests' help. They're family. And make sure your DH pulls his weight to entertain and cook for his own family who are showing up with no notice. You are not the chef and maid.

Why such short notice? Most people make Christmas plans in advance, have theirs fallen through? Or were they always intending to impose on you and didn't bother to tell you? I can't get my head around why they think this is ok. Having people to stay unexpectedly is stressful at anytime let alone the most stressful time of the year. This is completely inappropriate. I wouldn't be hosting in the traditional sense on such short notice. Perhaps putting them up but not doing all the shopping, cooking, cleaning. They need to understand they are being unreasonable.

Am not sure why its now they asked!

You get a phone call the night before Christmas Eve, suddenly asking if you can squeeze another 3 adults in to your Christmas dinner plans and the first question on your lips, wasn't "Oh, why? What's happened?"

I would actually love it if people asked at the last minute could they come to ours. I love cooking and hosting and would be flattered that they thought I would be welcoming and provide a happy day. And the more guests you have the more excuses for things being a bit imperfect or chaotic. We found out last night BIL will be home from overseas so I will be adding him to the list, but one extra mouth won't make much difference. However if you weren't already catering for a crowd I can see that three extra guests could overstretch things.

That being said, if money was tight I would expect people to chip in. Text SIL saying 'money hasn't come through, does this mean you've changed your plans? Let me know before xx o'clock as I will be busy after that. Xxx'.

Dh and his dm problems are very complex.
Dh cooks on xmas day so i wont have any extra cooking. My kids are so happy that they are comeing tbh i dont want to ask why now they ask as its will be complex like his family always are!

The food will not go off even if it's a 12 hour journey! I feel for you, that's rubbish. Hope there's little drama while they're there

I think you’re being very kind op, enjoy your Christmas!

As long as you are accepting they are coming thats all there is to it.

Hopefully it will actually be really nice and you will all have a lovely time together. Happy Christmas!

Its all sorted now and tesco was alright! Its wouldnt be xmas without some crazy!

Make sure they are on potato-peeling and washing up duty

I hope they help out tomorrow!