Need some input here, some very last minute Xmas gift input! My BIL on-off girlfriend had a baby girl last Monday. This is a bit long winded so I'll try and summarise.
We fell out with my in laws back in June 16 for a few months. We tried to build bridges but then fell out again in June 17. But last month we all made a real effort and things are now pretty damn great with them. However younger BIL also fell out with us in dec 16. But we don't know why. He just stopped talking to us and even blanked our children! And while we've made up with the parents it's not clear where we stand with him. I've spoken to him in passing last month and he smiled and was ok. I got him a birthday card even though I'm sure he didn't get my 3yo one!
Well now BIL is not speaking to his entire family because they had an rant at him because he wasn't going to go to the hospital when his daughter was being born! (Eventually he did go) Everyone seems agreeable that he's become a different person. He's treated his ex awfully.
My issue is because of the falling out we didn't get anything for the baby at their baby shower (we weren't invited). His ex was caught in the middle so we didn't speak for a year either. The baby came two weeks early and while I've been and bought her a little outfit as a welcome to the world present, is it wrong that I haven't also got the baby an xmas present? Is one present enough? His ex told me they have bought our boys an Xmas present so I feel a bit guilty but also this guy has barely even acknowledged my children's existence.