To cut a long story short.
Our eldest DD has been poorly for the last 3 days. Vomiting bug and now a cold. She has asthmatic tendencies. Colds usually bring on symptoms. We’re currently off all meds while the doctors work out whether we have an asthmatic child or a child that wheezes with a cold and they hope she’ll grow out of it.
DH has for the last 3 days been out for his work do and today was out from 2pm with friends. I have been away with the kids to see my family DH was working. 260 mile round trip 6 hours of driving.
The last two nights I’ve looked after older DD. The first night up with her vomiting the second night up with the coughing giving reliever inhaler and holding the sick bucket.
DH has been on a pre-booked day out with his friends and I said I think DDs symptoms are exacerbating and I’ve driven home
For 3 hours with the kids. Giving reliver inhaler. On top of this of course I’ve done all wife work of organising all presents for his family my family. The kids.
Was I unreasonable to say to him - Older DD is poorly I’m worried. What time are you home? For him to say 7pm and then he to walk through the door 9pm pissed. Honestly I fucking make this house function. I do bloody everything. I needed him to help with the youngest child while I looked after poorly child. All I needed was another pair of hands.
I’ve single handedly cared for the kids the last three days at my family’a house. They all work but helped in the evenings. I’ve done 3 practically sleepless nights.
I just feel like throwing the towel in and saying do you know what - wouldn’t it work better if we just separated. On a side note we sleep in separate bedrooms and haven’t had sex for 3 months. Aibu