AIBU to ask if anyone else is spending Christmas alone?

[ElvisChristmas]

Just that really. My DH and DC have gone abroad for Christmas to visit relatives. I couldn't go due to work and tickets were too expensive so close to Christmas so I'm staying home. I don't know many people locally and those I know well enough are either going away or have other plans so I'm just going to be by myself. Planning to do a lot of binge eating and binge TV watching. Have caught up on sleep and cleaning. Might go to the church tomorrow and Christmas day for some social interaction. Anyone else alone this Christmas? What are you planning for yourself?

I’m going to be on my own most of the day, maybe all of it. I’m the not so lucky one who discovered my H had a prostitute habit. I got so much support on here. I’m happy to be on my own rather than being in an unauthentic life which is how it was this time last year.

I envy op, to be honest. Have a nice relaxing day.

Meee!
I can't travel with the cat, nor leave her alone for a few days.

Though I'm having lunch with the neighbours.

We can chatter on here if we get bored :)

I have to say that although I expect to maybe be a bit emosh in not necessarily a good way, the run up to Christmas has been blissful as I have had so little responsibility. I've just been pottering about with the dc and taking them places they want to go, rather than buzzing about from A to B to C to A again, day after day, with gritted teeth about THINGS TO BE DONE. I kind of never want to have to do any of that again; unless I actually get suicidal on Christmas day I think the net emotional outcome is positive :)

I'll be going to family for Christmas dinner and socialize for maybe four hours. Apart from that I'll be mostly alone. I'm quite a recluse anyway so it will be normal for me.

One of my favorite Christmas was when I binge watched "The Killing" (the Danish one) which I had as a present. It was brilliant!

I am and I love it. It's not that I'm completely antisocial, but I find being social knackering and prefer to be alone most of the time, where I can do what I want, when I want. I've got nice food and wine in, will binge watch something on iplayer, and if I get bored there's always MN

olive I do get offers to go to friends houses for Christmas, although fewer these days as I stress that it’s my choice to stay alone and that I enjoy it. I just politely decline and nobody has seemed offended! I’ve got better at answering “what are you doing for Christmas?” With “I’m staying on my own, I love it, I can do whatever I want, I can’t wait!” Which pre-empts the “oh you poor thing” responses.

That's great @glum Glad you're happy.

Not this year, I'm spending it with close friends, but I have spent it alone for the past few years. I get up late, get a bit dressed up, cook myself a nice late lunch and watch lots of old movies.

I could always go to my db and his family if I wanted to but am happy to stay alone too.

I'm definitely more of a loner so I have avoided telling too many people about being alone, don't really want to be stuck at somebody else's christmas. But I still like knowing that I will be able to have some social interaction and keep myself busy in case I get a bit too emotional, and I really like that Twitter idea #joinin as mentioned by pp.

No backstory or anything to dripfeed, DH and DC happy to go to relatives and I'm happy to join them after Christmas.

Wish I was, no joke! Best Xmas of my life was the one where I had no familial obligations or work for two weeks. Went back to work feeling totally chilled.

This year is a bit manic...

I'm another in the lone Christmas club. Been out tonight but now I won't see anyone until I go back to work in January.

Normally I'd travel to see my Dad but he died this year so another era is over.

I quite like my own company so it's not a problem. I shall relish sleeping late, eating things I don't usually allow myself and generally hibernating with the heating on Tenerife.

I do join in the Sarah Millican thing on Twitter. Quite fun, and a way of feeling connected without having to make anyone a tinned salmon sandwich or provide trifle.

My husband works away a few days each week (airline) and I spent one Christmas alone a few years ago not through choice. No friends love nearby. TBH it wasn’t the “tragedy” people often think it is, spending Christmas alone. I ate what I liked, pleased myself, had a lovely long bike ride (it’s summer here this time of year) read a new book and enjoyed a very relaxing day indeed.

I also find it odd that your dh/dc are away. My dh prioritises me over everyone else.

My DH works in the emergency services so is working til 7am on Christmas Day. He’ll be up by about midday if he gets home on time. I’ll do horse/dog then make Christmas dinner. I’m used to it.

Some of us don't have a 'DH' Maelstrop.

I am and very happy. After years of spending far too many Christmas Days with people I would have preferred not to spend it with, primarily out of family obligation and guilt, I now love Christmas alone at home. My fridge is full of my favourite food and drink which I will enjoy over the next few days.

That's nice Silvery :)

Actually although I'm having lunch with the neighbours I was slightly concerned they don't seem to have a sense of tradition. I took one look at what they'd planned for eating and immediately went out and got a cheeseboard, grapes, smoked salmon, fresh bread and lemons, pâté, butter etc.

One thing I would always do Xmas morning is have smoked salmon and a glass of champagne.

@Bullet! I don't want to be a Scrooge, but just be a tiny bit wary of those neighbours. I'm still not convinced :)

I often spend Christmases on my own, though on the odd year I might take up friends' offers and go to them. It really doesn't bother me either way, but on balance I think I prefer the days on my todd. The thing is, however good friends they are, it's their family Christmas, not mine.

It's nice, after the pre-Christmas frenzy of work and socialising, just to sit and indulge myself at home with nice food (not awful turkey!), good books and DVDs etc. I do enjoy my own company though, that's very important.

yousignup :) I've been told off about that before on here.

It's new neighbours and they have helped me out.

I'll evaluate it a bit more in January when I'm more settled, honestly don't think they want a threesome. I certainly don't.

@Bullet Yes I remember :)
It's awful, they are probably lovely genuine people who'd be horrified at the level of MN distrust. Just always keep an eye on the nearest available exit!

Yes. Sudden bereavement earlier this year and couldn’t be arsed going through the motions.

So I’ve jetted off to the sun and will spend Christmas day sipping 🍷 and eating chocolates by the pool.

@maelstrop
I also find it odd that your dh/dc are away. My dh prioritises me over everyone else.

@ChinkChink

some of us don't HAVE a 'DH.'

But the OP DOES have a DH.

So that comment is irrelevant to this discussion 'chinkchink'