to call my sisters boyfriend and tell him his a selfshish d****head

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Sisters partner has up and left and moved back in with his parents who have been actively trying to split them up for ages as they think they are better than her. He has left her with a 10 month baby and a 3 year old. She lets him have access he wants which works out one day a week. Today the baby has become quite poorly during the day while in his care. He has been dosing him with calpol every 4 hours even though she pointed out it is every 6 hours. He didn't let her know until he brought him back tonight. He has cold hands and feet and watery poo nappies and seems very poorly. Made an emergency appointment to see dr so tried to call him and left message to say urgent, could he look after 3 year old who is asleep in bed. My mum and Dad have had to make the journey to her house now as he wont answer phone even though he is glued to it all day. Eventually texted back to say whats wrong with him? Wont make to the journey of 4 miles to look after 3 year old. AIBU to call him to say tell him I am disgusted with him?

I would see it in a different way.
In that case, he is showing his true colour. One that says that the well-being if his dcs aren’t that important to him (See him not letting your dsis know about how unwell the baby was). And that he has no intention at all to help your dsis with the dcs (it was clearly a choice not to be involved in looking afetr the 3yo).

Knowing that, I would concentrate in supporting your dsis and to help her find a support system to look after the two dcs wo him.
He won’t be reliable, no more than he has today.

Maybe he just didn't think his child didn't need to go to the Doctor (otherwise he might have taken them himself) and the mother is just overreacting. Maybe just a case of a difference of opinion and probably history.

Calpol can be given every 4 hours and 4x in 24 hours so he hasn't overdosed the baby.

He should come to look after the 3yo if at all possible though.

It does sound like the baby just has a bug though (they quite often have cool hands and feet do they not?) there's loads of bugs going round just now.

Why can baby not have ibuprofen? What's the babies temperature? Brufen is great for fever.

Mother not ovetacting baby admitted to childrens ward. Yes my priorities are with my sis now.

Hope the wee one is ok op.

I hope the baby will be well soon