Ex-DH is ex-DH because he was emotionally and financially controlling. We have been separated nearly 4 years now, neither of us has a new partner.
Although we agreed years ago to alternate Christmases, he has yet to have them on Christmas Day because he always says he can't afford a tree, a special meal etc. He doesn't make a lot of effort when they stay with him anyway - they usually end up video calling me because they are bored downstairs while he plays on his computer upstairs.
'I can't afford it' is his constant refrain and has been for the 14 years I have known him. I obviously don't know the ins and outs of his financial life but he has a decent job and pays less maintenance than the CMS calculator says so he is not on the poverty line.
So as agreed I dropped the girls off with him this morning and he will bring them back tomorrow afternoon before my parents arrive to spend Christmas with us. This morning he was taking pains to tell me in front of the girls that he has no food in after tomorrow and no money till he gets paid next Friday.
I don't believe him so I just ignored it and said bye. He has been dropping hints about being invited for Christmas but I am just not doing it. He would control the whole day and we would all be miserable. He also hates my parents and they him.
So, AIBU given that he will be alone on Christmas? (His parents gave up inviting him last year as he always refuses to go.)