To be offended there’s been no thank you

[FrostyThirties0]

Not Christmas present related!!

Will have to try and be a bit vague. Someone has been very close to me and my family for 5 years. Technically a ‘business relationship’ but the sort that you can’t help but get attached to each other’s families. They are now leaving the area and we won’t see them again. Ever.

I made and bought some leaving gifts. Some were quite personal to the relationship that has been built and I did get a bit emotional handing them over two nights ago. They didn’t but that’s fine of course.

They have since been in touch asking for a favour which I did. But there has been no mention of the gifts (some were wrapped so they took them home to open) or a thank you or any acknowledgement whatsoever.

I’m actually a bit hurt and wonder if I should have bothered. I don’t want to feel that way.

AIBU?

Oh bless you

I'd certainly send that invoice!!

I'm afraid I'm a bit like you Op, My own dd still goes into the nursery setting she was at for 4 years every Christmas to see her 'friends' there. She's always delighted to see them.

I'm hoping they send you the remainder of what they owe with a nice Christmas card....

And gift

It does surprise me to hear that many do think of it as only a business relationship. I can’t help getting attached to the children, it just happens. We spend dozens of hours together every week! I do see that the parents might not appreciate how emotional it is for us. I have some parents who are the complete opposite, lots of tears and gratitude in floods.

The invoice I’m confident will be paid, they’ve never given me any reason not to think it won’t be paid.

I’ve said goodbye many dozens of times before and I’m completely ok and know it’s part of the job. It’s just in the moment, you feel a bit like a business transaction and nowt more.