To think I might still make it to Midnight Mass

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I love Midnight Mass. This year is only the 2nd one we've been at our current home in 6 years and we move next year so this was my last chance to go to it at my church that I go to every week.

Due date with DC2 was Christmas Day and I was sure I would be late after being induced at 41+4 with DS but waters went this morning and I will either go into labour tonight or be induced at 6am tomorrow.

Last labour was very quick after induction, we were up and about next day, breastfeeding went great and I was always happy doing it anywhere. So if all that is true again, and bearing in mind I'm expecting to be awaken all sorts of early hours in first days am I being stupid to think I might still make it? Would happily go with pram or sling and church is only a 5 minute walk away if that.

It's the one thing about Christmas I really care about and I'm sure moving away is making me even sadder to miss it this year as I will miss this church and the congregation hugely but maybe I'm just obsessing about something I should really just let go.

You don't need to decide until 11.45 on Christmas Eve! If it gets to that time and you feel like you want to go, then go! If you really can't face it, then don't go and promise yourself you'll make it next year.

Good luck with your Christmas labour and baby, what a delightful Christmas present!

Not at all unreasonable and I get the sleep deprived bit but won't your toddler have you up early in the morning? With a new born and a toddler on xmas day you are going to be shattered even if you don't go.

That is true hiding. He's only 22 months though so not really aware of what Christmas is so won't be massively overexcited and we have SIL staying and PIL at a B&B down the road so they will be around to help entertain him too

Just see how you feel that evening and then decide.
It sounds so lovely though, christmassy Church service with a brand brand newborn gorgeous.

Ah, it should be lovely DeStijl. Although the vicar is disappointed I won't be providing a live Nativity on cue. He was quite excited with the concept!

As a PP said decide at 11.45. It does sound lovely..newborn..midnight mass. Just wonderful.

This was me 2 years ago. DD arrived at 08.30 on the 23rd. All very straight forward and we were home by noon on Xmas Eve. DH and PIL thought I was being a bit silly thinking about going out and I let them persuade me not to. Moved a couple of weeks later and I still miss that church and community so I always regretted it.

2 years later we are at PIL's which is about a 45 minute drive away from my old church. I was all set to go back there tonight but DC have both been ill, we had a terrible night and I just can really risk the drive on so little sleep or leave DH with potentially 2 small children up and distressed. They are sharing a room so as soon as one wakes it's always a worry the other will.

I'm just a bit miserable. I was so looking forward to the time on my own driving there and back, seeing old friends and being at MM. It's the only bit of Christmas I really like and the only bit I want for me. Would have given me the time to be away from everyone else to regroup my energy for the next few days

Don't actually have a AIBU now, just thought I resurrect my own zombie to have a moan!

Honestly, I would go. DH will manage the children if he has to, and you can take over as soon as you're home.

bridgetreilly I'm so tempted but I fear I.moght actually be dangerously tired for the drive. Both DC woke up at 3.45 this morning. DH took 3 year old into our bed, I tried to settle just turned 2 year old in DC1's bed with me but gave up at 5.15. Came down and we slept on sofa till about 7. I had another half hour nap about 5 but other than that by the time I get back tomorrow early am I'll have been up for about 22 hours.

I didn't have a drink over dinner so I could still go but I do feel wrecked too.

I hope you went OP! Happy Christmas