Dh is self-employed in a service industry and can go from totally flat-out to just a few hours work a day. Pay is ok so there's no problem doing less hours some days.
However, it drives me mad that on his quieter days he stays in bed until gone 9am, potters about, has a lazy breakfast etc then starts work mid-morning. Jobs often come up last minute so he'll then disappear and not arrive home until 8/9pm or if he's really quiet go for a pint in our local at 6/7pm.
My objections are:
I don't think it models a good work ethic for dc
He's rarely up & about before the dc go to school so no help with breakfast, packed lunches,school run etc
He's never home for family tea
He moans that he never gets a day off but the hours he works are often equivalent to a 3.5/4 day week but he chooses to string it out
It's bloody annoying that I have to get up to a 6:45am alarm 5 days a week and he doesn't
It's just bloody annoying
I accept that it's partly jealously and there's no denying that when he's busy he works bloody hard and won't think twice about doing a 12 hour day, but do think he could organise his diary better and have some more family time.
He's quite happy & capable with dc / around the house when he's here or if I specifically request he do something like cook dinner or do a shop but because he's not around much in the week it's always me 'asking' him to do stuff which pisses me off.
AIBU and any suggestions for change?