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AIBU?

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To think this is unfair?

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LaLaLand84 · 22/12/2017 17:23

So usually DP alternates christmas with his kids between himself and exwife. This year should have been our year to have them on christmas eve night through to christmas day evening - basically 7pm to 7pm.
She however now has a new BF and his ex is being 'difficult' and can't have their DC on christmas day so we have kindly agreed to swap to boxing day so all children get to see each other properly over christmas.
Now heres the AIBU bit - This weekend should be our weekend with the kids - Friday night through to Sunday night. Obviously we have agreed previously that she can have them back in the morning on Sunday as its Christmas eve, but see sent me a text last night to confirm times (DP is useless at telling me these things so easier for me and her to text directly) and has said shes dropping them off late afternoon on Saturday instead of the usual Friday night.
I think this is so unfair as we only see them every other weekend as it is and are already losing a day by being kind and helpful to her situation I just don't understand why we can't have them Friday night as normal?
I think I'm just missing them too much (DP is also!) so losing a day right before christmas when it should have been our year to have them on the actual christmas day is grating on me, I don't want them to think it was our choice or that we didn't want them - we just wanted them to have a great christmas and spend it with all of their families including mine and DP's son and their nearly step brother.
I haven't replied and am not going to as they probably have something planned and I don't want to seem like a dick trying to take them away from whatever they are doing that day and DP has said we can arrange a day in the new year to take them somewhere to sort of get that day back so I'm happy with that, just think its unfair to drop a change of plan on us so last minute.

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TheSnowballFairy · 22/12/2017 18:02

I think it's difficult that you are the one being communicated with but can't say you want any changes. Won't your DP say anything?

wannabestressfree · 22/12/2017 18:19

Dp needs to be grow a pair...... why is this being left to you?

wannabestressfree · 22/12/2017 18:21

Sorry that doesn't work for us we have plans. Collect them at 12 as normal?

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