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Slightly irritated with 13 year old daughter

43 replies

pingu73 · 22/12/2017 07:25

So this is pathetic I know
My daughter was ill with flu last week....full on symptoms and was quite unwell.
I have her a hug Cos I felt sorry for her and she decided to breath on me as a jokeSad I was not impressed as I was starting a new job 11th so knew I could absolutely not take any time off.
I’m sure it’s not related but now have had a chest infection for past week and feel like death...it’s kicked off my asthma too. I’m sure it’s nothing to do with the “breathing “ on me but I found it such a daft thing to do .
Santa may need a sick day

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Mamam1a · 22/12/2017 08:57

Greenshots - Are you being light hearted too and we’re just missing it?

TheFairyCaravan · 22/12/2017 09:01

There’s nothing in the OP to suggest this is lighthearted at all.

DS2 will be 21 on Sunday. He came home from uni last weekend and he’s come down with some sort of flu bug. He’s really quite unwell. I’ve given him lots of hugs, fetched him drinks, paracetamol etc because that’s what people do when they’ve got someone who is sick in their house. He’s breathed on all of us a few times. If we catch it it will be one of those things and I won’t feel any anger towards him at all.

popeyedoyle123 · 22/12/2017 09:14

i agree move on at least you have a lovely daughter to give hugs to so many people are lonely this time of year.

HeteronormativeHaybales · 22/12/2017 09:15

You gave her a hug because you felt sorry for her? One hug? Because you felt sorry for her? Don't you hug her otherwise? Have you been refusing her physical contact while she's been miserably ill? Shock Sad Good God, no wonder she breathed on you. She must be incredibly hurt. The poor girl.

HeteronormativeHaybales · 22/12/2017 09:17

Oh, and is the last line of your OP implying she won't be getting presents because of this? Shock

Nothing about your post says 'lighthearted', btw.

skippy67 · 22/12/2017 09:18

It's "breathe on" not "breath on".

MsHarry · 22/12/2017 09:20

I think it was more to do with living in the same house than the breath but yes, no presents this year! Wink

MsHarry · 22/12/2017 09:21

OP have you posted on MN before? You have to put 'lighthearted' in your OP or you will be hung drawn and quartered by the MN police! Grin

amusedbush · 22/12/2017 09:21

The OP didn't come across as lighthearted but people are jumping on weird issues. The fact that she offered one hug - my parents didn't hug me. I'm not a huggy person and that's normal for us so you can't judge a relationship based on that.

HeteronormativeHaybales · 22/12/2017 09:27

One of my dc is 'not huggy' and that's fine, I respect that, but physical affection is always, always on offer should he want or need it. That doesn't sound like it's the case with the OP.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 22/12/2017 09:41

No, you don't have to put 'lighthearted ' in your OP, you need to actually write a lighthearted post.,

morningconstitutional2017 · 22/12/2017 09:44

You know, whether she breathed on you or not you may still have picked up this wretched infection. All the hand washing in the world may not have saved you - after all you live in the same house and ime these blasted things get passed on anyway.

However I don't blame you for feeling annoyed with her. I'm suffering at the moment with a similar thing and it's over a week now so I'm in an absolutely foul mood what will all the coughing, sneezing, sweating, headache. I think I caught it off my sister who's sons have all had this. I won't point the finger as I could have caught it off a supermarket trolley. Never mind, you can vent on here.

Thetreesareallgone · 22/12/2017 09:56

I don't hug my children if they get a cold/flu, I wave at them across their bedroom! They are older 12 and 14 and know it's silly to hug/cuddle/kiss people when infectious. I'm happy to nurse them, lots of hot drinks, nice food, change bedding, but I don't hug them at all. I get few of their colds and nursed my dd with bedridden flu and didn't get it. I wash my hands all the time if someone is ill as well!

Original poster
pingu73 · 22/12/2017 11:25

Not even bothering with this anymore
There’s some seriously nuts comments on here!

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Lizzie48 · 22/12/2017 11:30

I'm not surprised you've had that reaction from other posters, OP, that was a seriously ridiculous post and didn't seem all that lighthearted. 13 year olds can be very silly sometimes, but I doubt that's what gave you the chest infection. Hmm

lljkk · 22/12/2017 12:14

AIBU is not the place for lighthearted.

MsHarry · 22/12/2017 12:29

Told you pingu73 . Happy Christmas and get well soon.

meanapparently · 22/12/2017 12:42

My son was sick with the flu last week and I held him, laid with him and hugged him and I am writing this from my bed on the ward where I am being treated intravenously after my uvula swelled up so badly I couldn't breathe, because I got it. I feel like shit. But it's life, when you have kids you have to expect to get their crud.

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