Taking child late night shopping

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AIBU taking my 5 year old late night shopping to 10pm even though he's in school tomorrow but only for 3 hours for the end of term. My husband said I'm been irresponsible but I always remember doing late night shopping with my parents at Christmas and loved the atmosphere.

I would but then again my 5 year old is awake every night until 11pm and still manages to get up for school.

She does go to bed at 8pm but is constantly shouting down the stairs for a drink, kiss, cuddle, fruit etc

I just dont think she needs alot of sleep

I wouldn't either. My 5 year old would probably be okay during that time, he has stayed up to 11 pm once for a family wedding and he was loving it. But the next day was a nightmare as he was so tired, and acting up. I wouldn't want him to do it in school, get in to trouble etc knowing I'd caused it. But then he goes to school all day. You know your son, do what you think.

My Aunt used to take me late night Xmas shopping when I was small. I loved it lol.

Up to you I'd say :) You know your child best x

I wouldn't do it with a 5 year old whether it was a school night or not as I can't think of much worse than shopping with an exhausted child in tow.

I definitely wouldn't take mine. But he hates shopping. Can you not leave him with his dad and go by yourself? That sounds far more sensible.

YABU. No five year old wants to be dragged round the shops for 3 hours late at night, and they will be exhausted.

If you go to most part out of town shopping centres on Friday or Saturday night you quite often see young children being dragged ( or pushed in buggies) around as late as 10 at night.
None of them look very happy and some lovely ok downright miserable and that’s not even on a school night. I always feel very sorry for them.
OP you are doing this for yourself not your child, please dont

I wouldn't either. But surely if you were going you'd need to have gone by now!

I'd hazard that your own memories may also be a bit skewed. I'm not doubting that you went late night shopping, but it probably wasn't as late as you imagine - it just felt it when you were young. I remember sometimes doing the supermarket shop with my parents on a Friday evening (so we didn't have to go on Saturday) and thinking it was really late and a real treat. In reality it was at about 7pm.

Sorry it’s a bit irresponsible your child us 5 not 15. They have school tomorrow and need sleep. I have a 5 year old There is no way he would be up till 10pm on a school night let alone be dragged around shops.

I think it is fine if ur 5yr old wants 2 go with u

Why would you want to? Much easier to shop without a child in tow.

You say you remember enjoying night shopping with your parents, but I have a feeling that it wasn't as late as you think it was. To a child, being out on a dark Winter's night it probably seemed like midnight. My DB and I were talking once about being taken to see Santa very late at night at a dept store, only to have Mum inform us that it was about 7pm!

I would, but then I'm not obsessed by the whole British "children should be in bed 7-7" thing. In other countries, children go to bed later and they aren't all hideously overtired or miserable. One late night won't do any harm.

Hope you have fun!

And if you don't go this year, there is always next year or the next : )

My dc wouldn't have coped very well next day, and it might have ruined what is otherwise quite an exciting end of term for them, all the kids excited, but all dc are different.

Why are kids on Mumsnet always 'dragged' around the shops? It conjours up an image of them being pulled by the scruff of their necks

But YABU anyway otherwise you wouldn't be asking strangers, who obviously don't know your child.

Not one bit irresponsible ffs, the only reason I wouldn't do it at five is because mine would be like a demon but definitely is she wasn't I would. Once it's a Christmas treaty type trip and not dragging them around while they are miserable I say go for it

And while they might have school tomorrow surely all schools have half days and they'll do no work, it's all mass, parties & Christmas jumpers in any school I know and home by 12, he'll be fine in school

If your child wants to go then I'd say it's fine.

I wouldn't have an issue with it you know your child, I think the school a VU for still working tomorrow and I bet the teachers aren't too impressed either.

Unreasonable- they'll be miserable. What young child wants to be in shops 2 hours past bedtime? The poor kid won't enjoy his fun last day at school either.

I don't know if YABU or not, but you must clearly be completely bonkers. But that applies if the are in school tomorrow or not.
I mean... just ... why ???

my dd would love it late or not. soon as you are home straight to bed to prevent tiredness next day. school is only a few hours and its not like they do any work last day. yanbu.

I've always taken mine, since they were little. It's a lovely experience for them to see the lights and be out at night etc, we always stop for a mince pie and a hot chocolate at a nice cafe. When they were primary school aged (they're teens now :( ) I made sure I didn't have any actual shopping to do by the time I took them, so it was just choosing crackers/a nice tree decoration/some tinsel for their bedrooms (tinsel snobs can kiss my kaka, we love the stuff)

Irresponsible? Bah humbug. They've only got one childhood and I want mine to enjoy theirs...being a bit tired on one half day at the end of term isn't a big deal.

Poor little bugger

I don't get the point fi there's no actual shopping. By 4 it's dark outside and there's lights etc. Shopping inside is pretty much the same any time of day.

I just can't see "late night shopping" as An Experience.

I can't imagine it being fun at all but if you want to do it can't you do it on a night when there is no school the next day instead? If I was shopping at 10pm I don't think I'd expect young children to be in the shopping mall then.