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Original poster

To think this is so unjust and unfair??

49 replies

PootLovato · 21/12/2017 09:41

Finished for Christmas yesterday, collected car from staff and customer car park - it was dark and I got in from the rear so didn’t notice the damage.

Got home and neighbour was parking and asked ‘when I did that?’ and pointed out the front of my bumper and wing which was very badly damaged.

Someone has obviously driven into my car in the car park and just driven off, no note and no details left. Police can’t investigate further as no council CCTV in area, work have advised ‘park at own risk’ so can’t help either.

Hopefully it won’t cost the earth to fix but what kind of arsehole does that?? They’re going to get away with it too. Very fucking annoying!!!!

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TSSDNCOP · 21/12/2017 09:44

The very same happened to Dsis’s car in Sainsbury recently and cost her many ££. I have a dark place in my heart for people that do things like that. Wankers all.

araiwa · 21/12/2017 09:44

Yep. Its shit

ShirleyPhallus · 21/12/2017 09:45

YABU

people should be able to smash in to cars and drive off without leaving a note

FaithEverPresent · 21/12/2017 09:45

I had this too in a supermarket car park. Someone had scraped all down the side of my car, bright red paint on my silver paint work! No way they didn’t realise they’d done it. I asked the supermarket for them to check CCTV but apparently only two of their cameras were working. Cost me £200 to repair (not worth going through insurance) with no chance of knowing who did it. Absolutely despicable behaviour! Definitely an arsehole in both our cases!

ShirleyPhallus · 21/12/2017 09:46

(Not really obviously but just providing some balance to an otherwise YANBU thread)

Original poster
PootLovato · 21/12/2017 09:47

My car is less than 2 years old and although isn’t top of the range, it’s the first new car I’ve ever owned after driving 10+ year old cars for years! I could cry at the unfairness of it all.

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BulletFox · 21/12/2017 09:48

Wonder how the heck they did that though? It makes you wonder about some people's driving skills.

Like, duh, avoid walls and other cars etc

Sorry OP

bonzo77 · 21/12/2017 09:49

YANBU. I’m about to pay £300 to repair damage after a hit and run like this. Soooo pissed off.

elliejjtiny · 21/12/2017 09:54

Yanbu. We had that happen to our garden wall twice. First time was a lorry who denied all knowledge, second time we don't know who did it. Should have been very obvious to whoever did it as it was a big section of thick brick wall that came down completely. We had to pay £500 each time to get it fixed.

Towerofjoyless · 21/12/2017 09:57

This happened to my car over the summer. DH used it to drive to his work and left it in the car park there. On return after a 12 hour shift he found the back bumper completely cracked through at the nearside edge, no note or anything left and the cctv for that part of the car park wasn't working. Was bloody livid! Car was on a pcp deal too which made it worse, though we've since bought it from the car company.

OberonTheHopeful · 21/12/2017 09:58

This happened to me three or four years ago in a supermarket car park. There was no working CCTV but a couple of people parked opposite had seen a woman try to drive into the space next to where I had parked, hit my car, and then go and park in another space.

The witnesses had very kindly waited for me to come back so they could pass on what they'd seen (and registration and description of car). I took photos of the other driver's car and reported to police and insurance company. I never heard back from the police, but about a year later I got a cheque to refund my excess. So the other insurer must have accepted liability at some point.

What struck me, and the witnesses, is the way she just hit someone's car, shrugged it off and then parked in another space!

HickDead · 21/12/2017 10:00

YANBU so sorry this has happened OP, it’s a truly shitty thing to do to someone. We had it happen to us just before DC2 arrived and I was on maternity. It really messed up our finances paying for the car to be fixed, didn’t put through insurance as our premiums were already top of what we could afford.

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PootLovato · 21/12/2017 10:00

Unbelievable! So selfish. I’m sure karma will circle back round at some point!

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kezsha · 21/12/2017 10:07

Is it a large business ? Can you put an email out to all other employees ? Maybe someone saw something and thought a note was being left ? Or it may have been another employee and you can guilt them in to owning up ? Perhaps a Facebook post along the lines of ... 'parked in X car park yesterday, car hit, anyone see anything ?'

I work for a large business with multiple staff car parking areas, this happens all the time. It's hurtful that people cause such damage and won't own up to it. It's unlikely you'll get the response you deserve but at least you'll have tried

bretonknickers · 21/12/2017 10:09

This happened to me once, I was in a pub having dinner and someone walked in asking for the owner of my car. She had seen someone drive into it and then drive off leaving a lot of scratches and my wing-mirror smashed off. She had (very kindly) taken down their reg number and gave it to me.
I reported it to the police and gave them the reg number but after a few weeks I was informed that they "couldn't do anything about it" Angry

sorry about your car Wine , its fucking annoying when it happens.

Travis1 · 21/12/2017 10:10

People that do this are cockjuggling thundercunts and fucking ridiculous. I had a guy run into the back of me and then his boss on the phone said I was mistaken because their vans have crash sensors and they weren't activated. Aye nae bother mate - tell that to the hole in my bumper! Took 6 months to get my excess back and my insurers had to take them to court, it was a bloody joke!

Lethaldrizzle · 21/12/2017 10:11

Sorry about you car but you need to get this in perspective. Its just a car at the end of the day.

Papergirl1968 · 21/12/2017 10:15

Happened to me on a car park and caused about £1,000 worth of damage. Insurance paid, apart from the excess obviously, but as we couldn’t trace the culprit it was classed as my fault. So bloody unfair.

BalloonSlayer · 21/12/2017 10:16

I once was waiting for DH to get home, and, hearing a car, went to look out of the window to see if it was him. Instead of DH I saw my absolutely lovely neighbour, nicest lady you could ever meet, reverse into my car so hard it knocked it a foot up the street despite the handbrake being on. She got out of her car in what looked like a foul temper and stalked to the back of her car. She scrutinised her rear bumper. She didn't even glance at mine! She knew it was my car too (classic car, v distinctive). She never said a word to me in all our subsequent friendly chats. Luckily due to its age and strength of construction my car didn't have a mark on it but by heck I saw her differently after that.

I would never behave like that. I recently knocked a neighbours car and left a note on it. When the guy came out and read the note I happened to see (I am not always looking out of my window I promise! Grin ) and went rushing out full of further apologies. He was fine about it and reassured me that the scrape I thought I might have caused had been there for ages.

Flowerpot1234 · 21/12/2017 10:17

A woman reversed into me in a Sainsbury's car park. I had seen her before and she was distracted and behaving oddly. When it happened another lady rushed up to me and offered to be my witness. I asked the driver what on earth she was doing, she said she didn't care, and she drove off.

I called the police. I had damage, a witness and the woman drove off. The police did nothing. Got the standard letter about them deciding not to take any further action.

I was hit by a driver who overtook us all queuing on a roundabout, he on the wrong side of the road, but he misjudged that there was a bollard in the middle of the road, and to avoid that he went into me instead. He drove off. I gave chase. I caught him. I called the police. He has hit me and left the scene of the accident. The police did nothing.

There are some idiotic and downright nasty, dangerous people out there. We also have a police force for whom some of us have not one single drop of faith or respect any more.

LonelyOversharer · 21/12/2017 10:28

I watched one of these while driving around for a space in the metro center. I wrote a note "To the owner of this very beautiful, but now damaged car..." parked perfectly. The old banger that basically tried to park inside it, just reversed and went away. Pre camera phones, but I took as many details as I could, and left my number, said I was happy to be a witness. Never heard from the owner, but I hope my note helped them. Just idiots.

Luckily not everyone who owns a car is a, an arsehole, or b, unable to park.

amicissimma · 21/12/2017 10:32

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Cantuccit · 21/12/2017 10:36

Sorry about you car but you need to get this in perspective. Its just a car at the end of the day.

Let's hope something dear to Lethaldrizzle gets damaged soon. After all, with their perspective in place, it won't make any difference to them at all.

MonumentalAlabaster · 21/12/2017 10:45

It's particularly upsetting when the car is new. Last Christmas someone drove into the back of us in our 3-month-old car. DH got out with a face like thunder and the driver burst into tears so I found myself comforting her and saying " never mind, these things happen" because she was alone in a car with 4 kids on a dark miserable December night 2 days after Christmas, had no mobile phone (I let her use mine) and her car was so damaged she needed roadside assistance whilst we were able to drive away.

IntoTheFloodAgain · 21/12/2017 10:49

I did it once. I had a new, bigger car and misjudged a parking space and caught the side of a car. I didn’t have anything to write a note with/on so drove home (nearby) then went back and left a note with my number (and brought dh with me incase the owner was there and raging lol).
They ended up contacting me and I transferred them money for the damage.

I felt awful up to that point though, in case they thought I’d just driven off I don’t know know how anyone wouldn’t feel guilty.