Btw, 9 year olds don't need phones.
True - 9 year olds don't need phones.
But we've decided - after careful consideration - that a phone would be useful for DS as he's gaining more independence.
A smartphone is more than a phone, it's a pocket computer. DS doesn't want it to chat to a lot of people - he wants it to spend hours doing stop frame animation (something I'm keen to encourage), to text his one good friend in school (I am keen to encourage this), to email his pen friend in the States (again something I'm keen to encourage). Why should I discourage any of these activities?
I want him to have it so he can contact me if he needs to. So, for example, when he's visiting his friend round the corner after school, he can call me when he's coming home and let me know he's setting off. As he gets older and ventures further, it'll be reassuring for me and him to know we can contact each other if needs be.
I also want it so I can track him! If he ever gets lost (happened once this year on a trip to the park when he walked ahead) I know where he is, and he can contact me in an emergency. Why wouldn't I use technology to keep my kids safe if I can?
I don't see anything wrong with any of that.
When I was 9, I'd been taking myself and my younger sibling to school for years on a 2 mile journey across inner London. I used to get the intercity train for 2.5 hours by myself to visit my grandparents and when I was 10 I flew on a 5 hour plane journey by myself.
DS doesn't have anything near that kind of independence. The world has changed. But I do want DS to learn to be independent in an age appropriate way. I see a phone as a safety device that helps us as a family support DS to be a bit more independent.