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Bit weird or not?

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Foxysoxy01 · 20/12/2017 18:10

I'm not sure if I'm being a bit ridiculous so could do with some advice or a good talking too!

Bit of background needed but this may be quite long, sorry Blush

Where I live it is quite rural. I have a dog I walk morning and night around the same time each day but not same time on the dot. I sometimes walk on my own (with dog) sometimes with someone else (more often than not in the evenings)

There are two walks both rural with no street lights and nothing other than the odd tractor, walker, horse rider etc etc. Just to add neither of these walks lead anywhere other than one to a house that then branches off to a longer walk.

So the track I went down today has a house at the top, one a bit further down then nothing till the big house at the end where it branches off.

The middle house (although closer to top of track than middle) goes garden, house, gateway, garden, shed, fence, big tree with the track running along side.

So that's the background now what happened.

I have walked past the middle house, down to big house and am on my way back. I see someone coming and get dog back on lead. The person notices me and moves quickly from right hand side of track to under the big tree (just off left hand side of track) just behind shed of house. Person lights a fag and turns around facing tree.

I find this bit odd but carry on as I get next to him he is still just off track under tree and facing the actual tree. I'm getting a bit on edge as this is clearly a bit strange behaviour.

I say good evening (admittedly I might have sounded a bit nervous) the person turns round while lifting their hood up so I cannot see their face.

I walk past quite briskly! (I'm not sure if IABU but something about the person did frighten me)

As I get nearer the middle house gates I see they are not in as car is not on drive (there is a mid 30's woman on her own living there) I stop and turn to look thinking I wouldn't actually hear if the person ran up behind me. They are still under tree looking straight ahead (not at me, but across the track into side with hedge)

I carry on and as I get to the next house I look again but can't see him and I was not about to walk back and see if he was still there.

Now the whole behaviour of this person was off. They very clearly did not want me to see their face. They were either an incredibly burly woman or a man, fairly thickset about 6ft obviously in black and just quite terrifying.

I am home alone tonight and just a bit worried I suppose that he was either waiting for a person walking (maybe not with good intentions!) or to break into the middle house? Or the thought did cross my mind if was he waiting for my but chicken'd out.

The woman that lived on her own is I suppose fairly vulnerable as her house is a bit away from any others and she is on her own (the house is quite large and obviously worth a fair bit of money so you would presume there could be antiques etc)

This all happened about an hour ago now so it was dark.

I'm not sure if I'm just being silly or should o go and check if he is still there? Phone someone? Or just ignore it all.

Writing it all down makes me think I am over reacting and the bloke maybe just wanted a walk but it really didn't feel like that at the time. His behaviour seemed odd and his body language was quite menacing tbh.

What do the collective of MN think?

Sorry it was so long!

OP posts:
Fullerhouse · 07/01/2018 01:42

Gutted I missed the update to, was checking constantly but then kinda hoped there wouldn’t be one as all was well. I hope you ok foxy and you move quickly!

BehindLockNumberNine · 07/01/2018 09:43

Oh no, what was the update and why was it deleted. Disappointed I missed it, was diligently checking regularly.

Goodasgoldilox · 07/01/2018 09:53

Concerned for you OP - wishing that things are better than I imagine (missed the update!)

skippykips · 07/01/2018 10:03

I am thinking although we all want to know what the update was - we should not be asking for a PM. It is quite obvious that OP isn't in a perfectly safe place/or it could be made worse.
PMing each other - can we really say that who you PM is not one of the people causing problems.

If you missed update, like I did, we will just have to wait and see if OP can update again in the future when moved or all this is sorted.
Keeping @Foxysoxy01 safe should be priority.

CoraPirbright · 07/01/2018 10:45

Oh no! Also missed the update!!

If you are still reading this from a distance OP, I sincerely hope that your move is proceeding smoothly and that you can get yourself out of this head-fuck village quickly and safely. Dont envy your buyers!!

Wishing you a safe and peaceful new year. Flowers

MumW · 07/01/2018 10:56

Missed the update too.
Do hope Foxy is ok and the batshit crazy pranksters get their comeuppance one way or another.

Doublevodka · 07/01/2018 11:01

Oh no I missed the update too!! Good luck Foxy.

MaggieFS · 07/01/2018 11:08

Why did the updates come from a different username? Bit odd, no?

Potteryprincess30 · 07/01/2018 11:08

@skippykips that's so true. I feel like a bit of tool now asking Blush I just got so wrapped up in knowing in that moment even though I hadn't checked or thought about it for days. I was getting on with my life basically and you right, we should let her get on with hers too.

All the best to you op and good luck with the move. You sound so strong and have obviously been through a lot while still conducting yourself with dignity and showing intelligence and good humour even when things were actually really scary for you. Thanks for letting us know your ok and god bless Flowers

skippykips · 07/01/2018 11:14

@Potteryprincess30 I really want to know and was tempted in asking for a PM. I live in the City. However, nobody knows that. I could be one of the idiots causing OP stress. If I asked for a PM and somebody did, that could cause OP some serious repercussions. Don't feel a tool. I think we are all very concerned for Ops well being.

QueenDaisy · 07/01/2018 11:31

I also missed the update, OP, I wish you well & hope you get moved soon & away from these people Flowers

neverhadanymarblestolose · 07/01/2018 12:39

MaggieFS I saw the update, it was very lengthy and very much in the style of writing as the OP username, so I don't doubt they are the same person. There was also an explanation for the name change in the deleted post.

Foxy I too live rurally and I know exactly the types these villagers are, as we too are 'outsiders'.
Fingers crossed for you that you move date is imminent.

MadMags · 07/01/2018 12:49

I can't imagine any scenario that would require such a level of cloak and dagger, tbh.

I mean, if OP had been outed, surely the whole thread should have gone?

Potteryprincess30 · 07/01/2018 13:12

Thanks @skippykips I did feel guilty obviously that I had acted on impulse my stupid excitement Blush but this is real not some episode of black mirror Pottery!

clippedcasuals · 07/01/2018 16:50

I agree Mags.

Straycatblue · 07/01/2018 17:11

I am thinking although we all want to know what the update was - we should not be asking for a PM. It is quite obvious that OP isn't in a perfectly safe place/or it could be made worse.
PMing each other - can we really say that who you PM is not one of the people causing problems.
If you missed update, like I did, we will just have to wait and see if OP can update again in the future when moved or all this is sorted.
Keeping @Foxysoxy01*safe should be priority.

This ^

MaggieFS I saw the update, it was very lengthy and very much in the style of writing as the OP username, so I don't doubt they are the same person. There was also an explanation for the name change in the deleted post.

OP, hope the move goes smoothly and life settles down in your new home. Probably wouldnt leave a forwarding address, would use the mail redirection service for a few months.

Littlechocola · 07/01/2018 20:08

Missed your update but hope you are okay and that your move is as soon and as smooth as possible.

sakura06 · 07/01/2018 20:42

Also missed the update, but hope things start to improve soon OP, and good luck with your move. Thanks

Wetwashing00 · 07/01/2018 21:12

I missed the update too,
But I hope that everything calms down for you soon and you get your moving date asap

TheGirlWithAllTheFeathers · 07/01/2018 21:36

I used to do a regular dog walk and on one occasion spotted a couple of blokes who just seemed 'wrong' in the area. TBH I thought they might have been police, they were that wrong. I NEVER think about calling the police, but on that occasion I reported them. If it sets your spidey-sense tingling then there's a reason.

BulletFox · 07/01/2018 21:56

I asked upthread if foxy was moving soon, she is.

But it appeared to worry her that it might be a neighbour so I sent a quick PM saying 'it's ok, I live in ' and she replied that it was near her. I was quite taken aback.

Anyway she'll be out of there soon.

MadMags · 07/01/2018 22:01

What does that mean? Is that what freaked her out? Confused

GeekyWombat · 07/01/2018 22:05

All the best with the move Foxy

Flowers
CheekyFuckersAreEntertaining · 07/01/2018 22:22

Oh damn. I can't believe I missed the update. Good luck Foxy, whatever is happening. Once this is all over, if you are able and it won't bite you in the arse, us nosey buggers would love a run down of what went on.

KioskKeithForPresident · 07/01/2018 22:56

This thread has put me right off living rurally/remotely.

It probably breaks all kinds of feminist codes to say this but Foxy is lucky she lives with a DH. A woman alone would be so much more vulnerable in this type of situation - and also isolated in the sense of not even having a second person there for moral suport.

I didn't see the update but if this is people basically mucking around out of resentment it is nuisance harassment that the police can deal with as criminal but doesn't sound like it is actually dangerous - in the sense of risk of physical harm to person or property.

Hope your move goes well Foxy.