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Bit weird or not?

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Foxysoxy01 · 20/12/2017 18:10

I'm not sure if I'm being a bit ridiculous so could do with some advice or a good talking too!

Bit of background needed but this may be quite long, sorry Blush

Where I live it is quite rural. I have a dog I walk morning and night around the same time each day but not same time on the dot. I sometimes walk on my own (with dog) sometimes with someone else (more often than not in the evenings)

There are two walks both rural with no street lights and nothing other than the odd tractor, walker, horse rider etc etc. Just to add neither of these walks lead anywhere other than one to a house that then branches off to a longer walk.

So the track I went down today has a house at the top, one a bit further down then nothing till the big house at the end where it branches off.

The middle house (although closer to top of track than middle) goes garden, house, gateway, garden, shed, fence, big tree with the track running along side.

So that's the background now what happened.

I have walked past the middle house, down to big house and am on my way back. I see someone coming and get dog back on lead. The person notices me and moves quickly from right hand side of track to under the big tree (just off left hand side of track) just behind shed of house. Person lights a fag and turns around facing tree.

I find this bit odd but carry on as I get next to him he is still just off track under tree and facing the actual tree. I'm getting a bit on edge as this is clearly a bit strange behaviour.

I say good evening (admittedly I might have sounded a bit nervous) the person turns round while lifting their hood up so I cannot see their face.

I walk past quite briskly! (I'm not sure if IABU but something about the person did frighten me)

As I get nearer the middle house gates I see they are not in as car is not on drive (there is a mid 30's woman on her own living there) I stop and turn to look thinking I wouldn't actually hear if the person ran up behind me. They are still under tree looking straight ahead (not at me, but across the track into side with hedge)

I carry on and as I get to the next house I look again but can't see him and I was not about to walk back and see if he was still there.

Now the whole behaviour of this person was off. They very clearly did not want me to see their face. They were either an incredibly burly woman or a man, fairly thickset about 6ft obviously in black and just quite terrifying.

I am home alone tonight and just a bit worried I suppose that he was either waiting for a person walking (maybe not with good intentions!) or to break into the middle house? Or the thought did cross my mind if was he waiting for my but chicken'd out.

The woman that lived on her own is I suppose fairly vulnerable as her house is a bit away from any others and she is on her own (the house is quite large and obviously worth a fair bit of money so you would presume there could be antiques etc)

This all happened about an hour ago now so it was dark.

I'm not sure if I'm just being silly or should o go and check if he is still there? Phone someone? Or just ignore it all.

Writing it all down makes me think I am over reacting and the bloke maybe just wanted a walk but it really didn't feel like that at the time. His behaviour seemed odd and his body language was quite menacing tbh.

What do the collective of MN think?

Sorry it was so long!

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InspMorse · 24/12/2017 23:37

Get cctv too. The portable cameras that link to your phone. You can place them anywhere you like.

PeanutButterIsEverything · 25/12/2017 09:58

Merry Christmas OP! Hope you have had an uneventful night?

feral · 25/12/2017 10:19

Whatever you do please don't mention this to your buyer. You have no legal obligation to do so and this could lose you the sale if you did.

Good luck with the move 😀

Beahun · 25/12/2017 10:35

This is just so strange! But I'm a bit worried about if you keep reporting to the police then as far as I can remember you need to mention it to the new buyer.(But I'm hope I'm wrong!)
Those people might be doing it so you have to tell your buyers then they will pull out of the sale and in desperation you sell them for a cheaper price.
Please get a cctv so if it's goes to court at least you can prove what they were doing.
Good luck!

Cambionome · 25/12/2017 21:45

Hmm. I see the op has disappeared. Hmm

ObscuredbyFog · 25/12/2017 21:57

Disappeared ?

Hardly, more like having xmas with family and being more selective with what they post online.

On xmas eve the OP wrote "We have family over within the next hour or so which will obviously take a lot of explaining about what's been going on so I may not be updating again for a while.

We think it might be better not to put too much online as like a few of you have said we think someone may be reading it."

Straycatblue · 25/12/2017 22:00

Hmm. I see the op has disappeared. hmm

What do you mean? She updated yesterday and today is christmas so maybe updating mumsnet wasnt high on the list of things to do Grin

OP, have just read all of this, hope you managed to have a nice Christmas regardless and that nothing else happened.

Cambionome · 25/12/2017 22:00

Oh yes... of course...

QuackPorridgeBacon · 25/12/2017 22:37

Cambionome You are coming across as really odd. It’s Christmas and the Op is with family and hosting. Surely you can understand there may not be an update today?

Foxysoxy01 · 25/12/2017 22:38

I have popped onto MN now as family that not in bed are happily munching chocolate and watching tv.

I’m sure you won’t believe me Cambionome so feel to ask MN for my site visiting times as it’s clearly super important to you. (One would think with it being xmas day you could find something more productive to do)

Nothing has happened at all today.

All the family are popping into the local tomorrow for a short drink so will see how that plays out!

Have updated the family with all the details which has given them plenty to talk about. It was starting to sound like a murder mystery parlour game!

We have looked into CCTV but are loath to invest in a decent setup if we are going soon so will wait until we have more of an idea when we will be exchanging so see if it’s worth while to invest or not.

I hope everyone has had a lovely Christmas.

Thank you to everyone that has thought about our drama and sent your online support Flowers

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RolfNotRudolf · 25/12/2017 22:58

OP is there a possibility of a couple of your party going into the pub tomorrow incognito and seeing if they can pick up any info without the locals realising their connection to you? Although I realise the locals will probably know exactly who you have visiting, and will be suspicious of any strangers that enter their pub.
Glad today has been peaceful for you at any rate.

64BooLane · 25/12/2017 22:58

Really pleased you’ve had a quiet day. I hope it stays that way. Xmas Smile

Foxysoxy01 · 25/12/2017 23:06

I would say that’s a good idea normally RolfNotRudolph but I think they might be suspicious of unknown people and probably wouldn’t talk to them anyway. It would probably just wind it up more if they worked out we had sent people in.

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fuzzyfozzy · 25/12/2017 23:13

Could you look at some cctv that would be portable. Eg the ring doorbell and their camera. All wireless

RolfNotRudolf · 25/12/2017 23:14

I can see that OP. I bet the pub goes quiet when anyone "who's not from these parts" steps in.

ObscuredbyFog · 25/12/2017 23:15

Delighted to hear there have been no incidents today Foxy, long may it continue.
Have a lovely time with your family and very best wishes for the Festive Season 'fsmile'

appleoftheluck · 25/12/2017 23:48

Happy Christmas, glad that you have been able to relax with your family.

Alabasterangel6 · 26/12/2017 00:29

I got a ‘plug and go’ HD cctv set up from amazon. The quality is good; the nasty cow who was vandalising my car repeatedly was arrested as a result and I feel pretty happy being able to view the front of my house constantly makes me very reassured. It’s not a big expense, you can move it when you leave?

BehindLockNumberNine · 26/12/2017 01:48

Crikey. I have just read your whole thread and am slightly freaked on your behalf. We had been planning to move to a rural village in Shropshire once dc both at uni. (Currently in Home Counties). Now have second thoughts for fear of being shunned for 'not being from these parts'.
Brave move, going to the pub tomorrow.
Please stay safe.

W0rriedMum · 26/12/2017 10:09

Another one whose fantasy of moving to the rural countryside have been dashed!

I hope you get peace now until you move.

Motoko · 26/12/2017 10:31

I live in a hamlet, the outskirts of the village start about half a mile away, and there are two houses on the other side of the lane a little way down from us.

We've had nothing like this happen. Don't let what OP is experiencing put any of you off moving to the countryside.

OP, I hope you continue to enjoy the holiday period in peace.

TattyCat · 26/12/2017 11:59

Another one here living in a hamlet, but just inside Herefordshire (Shropshire border). Our neighbours (all of them) have been nothing but welcoming, even those whose families have farmed here for generations - they're all lovely people.

True, there are some 'odd' locals in the next village, but if you're friendly with them they're also generally fine once you get chatting. Just need to be careful not to appear 'up yourself'!!

Straycatblue · 26/12/2017 14:24

All the family are popping into the local tomorrow for a short drink so will see how that plays out!

I wouldnt mention anymore of whats been happening to the locals, from what you;ve posted earlier, things escalated rapidly after you asked around in the pub.

savingyourlife · 26/12/2017 14:45

Don't mention anything whilst at the pub. Don't reinforce the behaviour. If it is the locals, they're clearly dickheads and mentioning what's been going on will only encourage further fuckery.

Traffig · 26/12/2017 16:12

Hello OP
Thanks for update. Liking the idea of to going to pub in a jolly group.
Your village, your local to drink in also.
You sound on top of things. All good wishes. Smile