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Bit weird or not?

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Foxysoxy01 · 20/12/2017 18:10

I'm not sure if I'm being a bit ridiculous so could do with some advice or a good talking too!

Bit of background needed but this may be quite long, sorry Blush

Where I live it is quite rural. I have a dog I walk morning and night around the same time each day but not same time on the dot. I sometimes walk on my own (with dog) sometimes with someone else (more often than not in the evenings)

There are two walks both rural with no street lights and nothing other than the odd tractor, walker, horse rider etc etc. Just to add neither of these walks lead anywhere other than one to a house that then branches off to a longer walk.

So the track I went down today has a house at the top, one a bit further down then nothing till the big house at the end where it branches off.

The middle house (although closer to top of track than middle) goes garden, house, gateway, garden, shed, fence, big tree with the track running along side.

So that's the background now what happened.

I have walked past the middle house, down to big house and am on my way back. I see someone coming and get dog back on lead. The person notices me and moves quickly from right hand side of track to under the big tree (just off left hand side of track) just behind shed of house. Person lights a fag and turns around facing tree.

I find this bit odd but carry on as I get next to him he is still just off track under tree and facing the actual tree. I'm getting a bit on edge as this is clearly a bit strange behaviour.

I say good evening (admittedly I might have sounded a bit nervous) the person turns round while lifting their hood up so I cannot see their face.

I walk past quite briskly! (I'm not sure if IABU but something about the person did frighten me)

As I get nearer the middle house gates I see they are not in as car is not on drive (there is a mid 30's woman on her own living there) I stop and turn to look thinking I wouldn't actually hear if the person ran up behind me. They are still under tree looking straight ahead (not at me, but across the track into side with hedge)

I carry on and as I get to the next house I look again but can't see him and I was not about to walk back and see if he was still there.

Now the whole behaviour of this person was off. They very clearly did not want me to see their face. They were either an incredibly burly woman or a man, fairly thickset about 6ft obviously in black and just quite terrifying.

I am home alone tonight and just a bit worried I suppose that he was either waiting for a person walking (maybe not with good intentions!) or to break into the middle house? Or the thought did cross my mind if was he waiting for my but chicken'd out.

The woman that lived on her own is I suppose fairly vulnerable as her house is a bit away from any others and she is on her own (the house is quite large and obviously worth a fair bit of money so you would presume there could be antiques etc)

This all happened about an hour ago now so it was dark.

I'm not sure if I'm just being silly or should o go and check if he is still there? Phone someone? Or just ignore it all.

Writing it all down makes me think I am over reacting and the bloke maybe just wanted a walk but it really didn't feel like that at the time. His behaviour seemed odd and his body language was quite menacing tbh.

What do the collective of MN think?

Sorry it was so long!

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Foxysoxy01 · 22/12/2017 22:40

The bloke pulled the hood up as soon as LFDH put the window down on the car.
He has no idea age or what he looks like. He could be a tallish teen I suppose.

I work from home doing something interesting for me but not really anyone else. DH does work with o the public sort of but nobody would know where he lives and it's sort of a nice job he does so wouldn't upset anyone.

The road leads outside our house you have to turn off the road slightly and down a bit of a track/drive into iur house but it's literally a few feet off the road. There are trees around the sides of the house thin to begin with then thicker as it goes along then thinner, then neighbours. It's not much wood really and doesn't go anywhere from the back other than fields eventually.

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DrRanjsRightEyebrow · 22/12/2017 22:43

this pulling up the hood business is weird and suspicious. You wouldn't do that unless you were officially up to no good. Agree a teen prankster would not be solo and would be running off.

Regressionconfession · 22/12/2017 22:43

I hope you get to the bottom of it tonight!

DrRanjsRightEyebrow · 22/12/2017 22:44

They're staying with you all night, right? Or until your DH is home?

Eatingwormswithwine · 22/12/2017 22:44

either call the police or confront him, I wouldn’t let someone hang around my house flinging stuff at my door and leaving weird presents, get him in for a brew!

Littlehenrylee · 22/12/2017 22:48

So it’s a lane with three houses and a dead end at the bottom for anything other than by foot and hours is the first house?

If yours is the first house and the one nearest the road, could it be used as the lookout?

The noise at your door? Could it have been a gunshot? Could they be poaching?

whereisteddy · 22/12/2017 22:57

I don't understand why you haven't called the police?!

caoraich · 22/12/2017 23:00

Wow OP this all sounds really frightening. Just a suggestion, but a similar yet far less scary thing happened to me a couple of years ago. I lived in a normal suburban street though. Some bloke kept turning up and hanging about in our front garden, he at one stage left a strange notebook and a pile of stones. It culminated in him trying to get in at about midday one weekend, hammering on the (thankfully locked) door etc. The police arrived sharpish and arrested him. Anyway it turned out he had lived in our house as a child, was experiencing a psychotic episode, was very confused and thought we were intruders. The poor bloke ended up in hospital.

Fingers crossed you get it all figured out

Sassenach85 · 22/12/2017 23:00

I agree whereisteddy!! Seriously OP, I would be on the phone to police in hysterics by now. What is your reason for not calling them? You are being intimidated by an intruder now....

Sassenach85 · 22/12/2017 23:02

Say it is someone having a psychotic episode... what will they do next? They may have no control of their thoughts. If it's teens then they still deserve to be sanctioned by the police?

Foxysoxy01 · 22/12/2017 23:04

Friends are staying as long as we need them so if nothing happens to explain it all they will stay over.

Our house is on the road, the road continues in both directions. As you travel further along the road past our house you get another house. This house also acts as the corner house for the track. The road continues on past this track all the way through the village while the track goes to a house at the end then a further footpath.

I suppose they could be looking out for poachers?

It didn't sound at all like gunshot at the door. It actually sounded like when a pigeon flys into your window.

We have had a chat and If anything else happens we are going out to confront whoever it is.

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Foxysoxy01 · 22/12/2017 23:08

I have phoned the police and told them everything twice already.

They are driving past a few times tonight.

There isn't really anything they can do. If they found the bloke he could just say he was walking down the road. The bang on the door could've been anything. They won't come out for strange noises especially when there are 4 adults in the securely locked house.

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brexitschmexit · 22/12/2017 23:08

Jeez this is all seriously creepy and unsettling! Can’t imagine how it must feel to actually be experiencing this.

Littlehenrylee · 22/12/2017 23:13

I get the layout now.
So they threw something deliberately at your window/door?

I’d confront too while friends are there (safety in numbers) but in all likelihood, whoever it is will just walk off again and it’s not as if you can make a citizens arrest because you saw someone walking off. I’d probably try to take sine photos (blatantly) of them and hope that scares them off as they know they can be identified? Unless that is illegal? I don’t know?

brizzledrizzle · 22/12/2017 23:15

Taking photos of them isn't illegal but I wouldn't recommend it, it could put you at risk if something sinister is going on as they aren't going to want you to have photos to take to the police. Besides which, it's dark and you can't do it on the quiet as they will see your flash go off.

Sassenach85 · 22/12/2017 23:15

I do see where you are coming from in that you have called them. But surely if they came out to your house the person might see them and back off?

Foxysoxy01 · 22/12/2017 23:15

The bloke has walked past our gate but with another person.

Think we are going to go out.

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froshiechipandbrickie · 22/12/2017 23:15

little I’m not quite sure how it’s in the U.K. but I’m fairly certain that people without the authorisation to be there don’t have the right to expect privacy whilst staying on the OP’s property.

donemychristmasshop · 22/12/2017 23:18

Oh my word , I am actually on tenterhooks here !

SoozC · 22/12/2017 23:18

Good luck, OP!

SleightOfMind · 22/12/2017 23:21

At least there’s independent corroboration of Creepy Fucker behaving creepily in your vicinity, so you know you’re not being a loon.
No advice but I live in London and hate the countryside in winter.

Lilliepixie · 22/12/2017 23:28

V scary
Completely put me off living in the country

Could he be homeless, living in the shed you mentioned?

scotchpie · 22/12/2017 23:29

Be careful OP

Quittingthyme · 22/12/2017 23:30

Op, be careful!

PsychedelicSheep · 22/12/2017 23:30

Omg how weird and creepy 😕 hope you get to the bottom of it all tonight and can finally sleep peacefully!

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