I know it's another Christmas one, but I'm struggling to see if I'm being unreasonable or not.
I have three siblings, each have children , for years we have all just got for the children as we and my dsis have been poor. Meanwhile dh has one sister and she is childless. We buy her a gift.
My brother has found out that we buy for dhs sister and is kicking off. He should get a present. This is proof that I have "left" the family and become one of "dhs family"
I think this is mental. He doesn't buy for me. I don't buy for him. We each buy two gifts for each other's children. None of us siblings give each anything. My sisters are not at all jealous.
Dh sister buys for me, dh, dd and ds. She therefore spends loads, has given four gifts- to receive nothing back? That's not on imo.
I'm struggling as I'm not of the opinion adults don't need presents. I think it's good for children to give gifts, and see everyone receiving and enjoying giving on Christmas Day. But I also see that when finances are tight, needs must. Am I bu to gift to dh sister but not my brother? (And then other three siblings?)