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Ex husband and Child maintenance

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megwitchandmogcat · 20/12/2017 11:22

Sorry to post here but need some help and this seems to get the most attention.

I am fairly new to Mumsnet but just trying to get some advice so please be gentle.

Ex husband and I have been split for a number of years, limited access to dcs and a nightmare paying maintenance. Finally went to child maintenance about it and it's helped but still not paying properly. I had no money for 5 months this year and has only just this month starting paying when they threatened collect and pay and he didn't want to pay the extra 20% (how this has taken 5 months I don't know!!!!) but it's a lot less than it should be according to the online calculator. He also owes thousands in arrears and paying back at £20 a week, so will take him years to pay back. According to child maintenance he has made an offer to pay arrears and I have to accept it!

I have a text message from him telling me how much he earns and I know I'm being underpaid each month (it's not a couple of pounds it's hundreds), spoke to child maintenance and they are using his 2016/2017 salary. They have advised that he has told them how much he earns (it's over 25% more) but he won't send pay slips to prove this. They contacted his employer and they haven't replied. They have advised there is nothing more they can do and his payments will go up in next summer when they do the annual review for the 2018/2019 financial year but I will have missed out on this years extra money that won't be backdated. They said I will have to get legal advice and take him to court to get proof of his salary to get the correct money in this financial year.

Has anyone taken ex's to court over maintenance... please don't think I'm being grabby. I work full time and work hard bringing 3 children up on my own. I just want to make sure my children get what they should.

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SadTrombone · 21/12/2017 02:14

No advice I'm afraid OP but bumping for you
Flowers

Foobarjar · 21/12/2017 02:18

Cms can get HMRC records so ring them back.

Record your ex or screenshot texts to show he's over the 25% declared to force a re-review. CMS are lazy but push them.

Best of luck

Palace2 · 21/12/2017 05:43

I wrote to my mpa who then wrote to csa (was a long time ago). Amazing how quickly they tried to help me then so they could tell my mp the matter was resolved.

Oldbutstillgotit · 21/12/2017 08:05

OP I feel for you . DD has been trying to get maintenance for over 10 years . It strikes me that the system is overly sympathetic to the NRP , allowing too generous time for replies and giving up if (s)he refuses to co-operate. DD is refusing to give up and her MP is now involved . Also has someone else said, CMS can obtain info from HMRC. Keep on at them and good luck 💐

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