Santa's List

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My husband and I have a daughter who is six who is not biologically my dh but he's the only father she's ever known. My inlaws have always been really good with dd and treat her as if she's been in their lives forever. BUT mil constantly mentions the prospect of a new baby. Every time we see her (she lives a bit away). She has no other grandchildren so I understand that she's keen to experience a grandchild from the 'beginning' and it's not something we ever ruled out but my age is against us and life is getting in the way of second baby but we have been trying.
Anyways, we popped up to see her for a pre Christmas visit and she repeatedly mentioned baby stuff again which I nod to and repeat the "we'll see" and "ah I'm too old" etc etc. So she turns to my daughter and tells her that "santa will bring her a baby brother or sister if she puts it on her list" Fuming is not the word. My dh had a word with mil and I've explained to our daughter that santa doesn't have that power and her grandmother is mistaken but I have to sit down with this woman at Christmas and if she mentions a baby I may throw the turkey at her.
Rant done.

Your DH needs to have a word with her or shoot her down (figuratively speaking, if course) whenever she makes a baby related comment. It's not fair when anyone, parent or not, makes comments like this as they just don't know what is going on behind closed doors.

I assume you and your DH have tried asking MIL not to go on about another baby and she has ignored you.
So instead of politely brushing off her comments with "we'll see"and "I am too old". You need to be firm with your MIL and tell her to stop as it not her business and that it is between you and your husband.
If she brings up the subject of a baby at Christmas both you and your husband must be prepared to nip it in the bud by saying something like. "Its Christmas mum and we are not having this conversation"

'MIL what did DD do that you want her to think Santa has her on the naughty list? A brother or sister isn't going to appear on Christmas morning so you've set her up for disappointment, why?'

If she has any heart she will feel guilty at that and once her face drops tell her you don't want any mention of it again.

That's horrendous! My dd wished for a baby brother or sister (struggling to conceive-she is a miracle really). I said I would try but it's harder for some women to have babies than others. If my mil said that to her I would be really upset (what yours said).