wibu to warn my cousins

[pinklemonade84]

I’ve given in tonight and blocked my mum’s sister on Facebook.

My mum was severely disabled, in chronic pain and you never heard her moan, even on her worst days. Yet her sister is constantly posting updates about how much pain she is supposedly in. Posting about her trips to the Dr. Posting about her supposed trips or falls.

This woman used to bully my Nan. Stole money from her. And actually went to hit my mum once because she dared to stand up for my nan (the only reason she didn’t do it was because my other Aunty turned up).

She has admitted to my cousins (other aunty’s daughters) that she has had rails added to her house and uses a stick to her walk so that she can get extra pip money.

I’m struggling with missing my mum as it’s our first Christmas without her and today I just snapped and blocked her after something like her 5th attention seeking status.

Now wibu to warn my cousins (from my other Aunty) and give them the heads up that I have done this? This woman will undoubtedly question them and ask questions like “why doesn’t pink like me?” “What have I done wrong?”

IWanna it’s our other Aunty so not their mum

I do see where everyone is coming from with regards to not warning them, so I’ll not do that as I’ve been bumming and aahing about it all night. If they ask then I’ll let them know why

I think you were perfectly reasonable to block her but unreasonable to drag your other family members into it. They will block or handle DAunt themselves if they feel that's appropriate but by telling them about your blocking, I'm not sure what you expect to get out of it?

I don't understand why so many people make such a big deal about Facebook.

If you don't want to block her and cause a fuss just click on her tab and hide all the stuff she posts.

Instead of blocking her, you could have unfollowed her & as far as I know, you then wouldn’t see her posts. If you just blocked her (instead of deleting then blocking) just unblock her & then unfollow her, problem solved

I can understand you not wanting to see her FB posts.

I wonder if the frustration, hurt and anger you feel over your mum's death (which is understandable) is being directed at her sister though?
You're not unreasonable to feel irritated by her insensitive comments but I'd advise not starting a family feud over this over Christmas.

I'm sorry about your mum

Block then keep your head down. I did this to my B his wife and her mother. The questions were hilarious - apparently people live their life by FB and cant cope if someone is blocked. Best thing I ever did

Aki99 she lives her life by fb too. I very rarely use it because of seeing her posts. It gets too much sometimes. And I think yesterday I snapped and blocked her

I do accept I wbu to warn my cousins, so won’t be saying anything to them unless they get questioned and then ask me

Crochet is right. As for telling your cousins - don’t do it unless you want to come across as causing drama.

Actually RavingRoo I think Crochet was just being spiteful for the sake of it

And if you’d read my responses you would have noticed that I’ve decided NOT to say anything to my cousins unless they ask me what’s happened when (because it will eventually come up) they get the questions

No, Crochet is someone who lives with various disabilities that is fucking sick of other people thinking they have the right to judge the severity of, or how she should be affected by them.

Maybe that is spiteful? Chronic illness/pain will do that to you.

If any of my cousins contacted me to say they had blocked another family member, I would wonder why they had told me unless they were trying to start something. It's Facebook. I couldn't care less. Not many people care about it. Block her, delete, unfollow, whatever but don't bring others into it.

OP, I'm really sorry for your loss, and I can understand why you're finding your Aunty's posts upsetting. But it's not fair to police someone else's disability. Different people handle pain in different ways - some are very private, others express it more publicly. It doesn't make one better or more valid than the other.

YANBU to block your Aunty if you need to (though muting would cause less drama?) but YABU to suggest her disability isn't real.

Crochet, where am I judging your disabilities? Or how you should be affected by them? I’m fairly certain that you wouldn’t brag to family members about trying to get extra money!

This woman used to steal off my Nan. Showed no hesitation in going to hit her disabled sister until their eldest sister stepped in. I wouldn’t put it past her to steal off the tax payers too.

And yes I might be repeating myself. But once again, after reading the constructive replies on here I decided not to involve my cousins. And won’t be saying anything to them about it unless they ask me

To be honest I’m not really sure. Mum had her on her friends list out of some sort of loyalty to my Nan and to keep things quiet for her sake. And I think I was doing it out of loyalty to mum to help keep the peace for her.

The moaning and whining only really ramped up after Mum died. Literally within a day or so of mum passing her statuses started about how tough she had it.