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AIBU?

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Would you be a bit...

58 replies

JarethLovesMe · 19/12/2017 21:29

Hmm if your DH posted a meme containing this quote on FB and tagged another woman (ex work wife).

Talk me down. NC just in case...

She's my person. If I murdered someone, she's the person I'd call to help me drag the corpse across the living room floor.

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EnjoyYourShitCake · 19/12/2017 21:32

What do you mean by ex work wife?

tattyheadsmum · 19/12/2017 21:33

YANBU. In fact, I’d be a bit Angry.

On the other hand, it could just be an in joke?

JarethLovesMe · 19/12/2017 21:34

Enjoy He’s changed jobs and no longer works with her. She’s still in same job. They did work very closely for long periods of time.

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JeReviens · 19/12/2017 21:35

So is she his ex-wife? Confused

JarethLovesMe · 19/12/2017 21:36

No JeReviens ‘Work wife’

Change to ex colleague if you like.

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peanut2017 · 19/12/2017 21:37

Could just be an in joke between them as it's not a romantic quote? Maybe ask him?

MoistCantaloupe · 19/12/2017 21:39

I'd be more upset that my husband was sharing and tagging people in these ridiculous memes. How embarrassing.

But YANBU.

fannyanddick · 19/12/2017 21:39

Think it's absolutely fine. Just a reference to them going through stressful times at work and getting on well. Nothing more.

Mumteadumpty · 19/12/2017 21:40

Sounds fine to me. You'd want to look after your spouse by not getting them involved, and choose someone you'd trust to protect your back, ie a team mate

ToriaPumpkin · 19/12/2017 21:41

I'm torn. It sounds like the kind of in joke I'd make with various men I work with, we regularly post on social media about helping each other hide bodies following a particularly long and bizarre conversation one day. DH knows about these conversations and wouldn't bat an eyelid. I also know the context of that quote and that it originally appeared in a work context and that people in work environments often have a bitch to each other about clients/customers.

If you were concerned about their relationship in the first place though I can see how it would make you uneasy, that he is outwardly saying he trusts her above anyone else.

I think I'd try and take it in the spirt of the former though!

TidyDancer · 19/12/2017 21:41

There's a man I work with who could easily have done uploaded this about me. It's entirely innocent in my case, we used to joke around that I had an evil streak and would be the best person to go to for advice on where to stash a body. It means nothing. I think you're reading way too much into this.

Disclaimer: am not actually evil and have never needed to stash a body....

JarethLovesMe · 19/12/2017 21:42

I don’t know if I feel Angry just a bit ‘she’s your person?!’

In the interest of not drip feeding. They worked together for around 5 years. We’ve been together 10, married for 7. 1 DC another one due very very soon. I’m very sure nothing has ‘gone on’ but there is a kind of inappropriateness I’ve noticed with him very recently which I think this probably illustrates.

Don’t know if this makes any sense. Trying very hard not to be too outing!

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SportyBobster · 19/12/2017 21:42

It's a grey's anatomy quote. It is about friendship rather than anything romantic if that makes you feel better?

justdontevenfuckingstart · 19/12/2017 21:44

I'm a 'work wife' me and him are a team, we know where the bodies are buried and support each other. Zero attraction, we are just really good workmates. There doesn't always have to be something romantic going on.

JarethLovesMe · 19/12/2017 21:44

I'd be more upset that my husband was sharing and tagging people in these ridiculous memes. How embarrassing.

Ha! Yes! I totally agree with this Grin

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Splinterz · 19/12/2017 21:46

Are you always jealous?

JarethLovesMe · 19/12/2017 21:46

I must confess I googled the quote so know it’s from Greys Anatomy. He’s never watched it.

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justdontevenfuckingstart · 19/12/2017 21:48

It really doesn't illustrate anything innapropriate. (sp?)

JarethLovesMe · 19/12/2017 21:48

Funnily enough Splinterz no. You don’t tend to survive nearly a decade of marriage being jealous. Did I say I was jealous? Is Hmm the emoticon for jealousy?

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justdontevenfuckingstart · 19/12/2017 21:52

Well yes you are jealous, because you're concentrating on the 'she's my person' when you (rightly) think you should be 'his person' but it's meant in an entirely different context. I do understand why it smarts tho.

maddiemookins16mum · 19/12/2017 21:53

Is 'work wife' a new thing? I've seen it a lot on MN recently.

JarethLovesMe · 19/12/2017 21:54

I don’t know why it’s hit a nerve. I’m particularly fat, grim and pathetic at the moment with baby due immenently. This is most likely the problem!

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MoistCantaloupe · 19/12/2017 21:54

Are you always jealous?

Great comment, so helpful.

I understand what you mean OP - it sounds like she's his 'partner in crime', which you usually associate with a best friend or significant other. I wouldn't like it either, but seeing as he's done it openly on Facebook, I'd guess he doesn't realise and means nothing by it.

rocky4 · 19/12/2017 21:55

Hmm nah not for me. I'd be annoyed.

justdontevenfuckingstart · 19/12/2017 21:57

Oh Jareth don't be like that! (Labyrinth?) my oh has one woman friend and it gets to me, like you i'm not a jealous person etc but sometimes you get a bit grr.

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