I am in a bit of a quandary and need some Mumsnet advice. I separated from my ex many years ago when our children were young. I have always lived near my ex and we have share their care - weekdays with me and some or all of the weekends with him. This has worked well and we have remained on amicable terms. We are both in new marriages with new step/children. The issue is that I have been made redundant and work in quite a unique environment. The only new positions available require me to move - options could be between 1-2 hours drive away. My ex is incredibly unhappy about this, saying he wants the children to be near him and they should move in with him if I choose to move away. I don't want to hurt anyone - I feel I have to move to keep a roof over my family's head, and it is not that I am choosing to move out of spite. I don't want to have to choose between unemployment/my children moving in with ex and upsetting people. So my question, what distance is reasonable?