Both DH and I moved to another city (separately) and have both lived here for around 20 years. We have our life here. My family live about an hour and a half away, in laws live 3 hours away. We have four groups of friends, one where we live, one where my family live, one about 3 hours in one direction another 3 hours in opposite direction. Everyone expects us to travel to them and I’m pissed off with it. It’s always us traipsing round the country. DH has been seriously ill this year and still people were asking when we’re going to visit - it’s ages since we’ve seen you etc. No offers to come to us hardly. Parents can’t travel far. My best friend lives about 20 min from parents and she expects me to always come to her cos I’m up there anyway. AIBU to just say to them all come to us and stay in a hotel like we do (I think cos there’s groups of people they think we should visit them)