To not send Christmas cards

[Happyhippy45]

When we lived overseas and I was a sahm I used to send Christmas cards to all my family and all dh family. When we moved back nearly 10 years ago and we started a business together I stopped. It didn't seem as important as we'd see most people anyway. I still did all the Christmas shopping and organising though.
I've recently become disabled and not working. I spend pretty much all day doing nothing as I'm not physically able.
I've still managed to shop online for all the Christmas presents though may need help wrapping them.
DH suggested I should send Christmas cards this morning "as I'm at home all day doing nothing anyway."
I told him I wouldn't be as we hadn't for years and most people we know don't do cards either now a days.
He phoned me from work to ask me again and got a bit pissy about it when I said no again.
I think it's a waste of my very limited energy and money. AIBU?

Not this again.

No-one I know has done cards for years. Didn't even know people still did to be honest

Have you seen the price of a stamp?

The last 3 years i've been culling my send list down by only sending when i've received. The numbers dropped like a stone. I started out with about 20/25 to send IIRC. About half were ones to post and half to hand deliver.

So this year we've received 3. One from MIL, who we'll see twice now before xmas, one from my DM (who we live with! ) and one from the architect who's doing our rebuild.

I'm sending none and loving it while feeling strangely guilty.

We still have a few hard core friends who always send cards but I don't even send them one! I genuinely don't even like to get them either as there isn't really anywhere to put them up in our house(no mantelpiece.)
I don't want to start an argument about it with him but I can feel one brewing.

I'd gently hint that he can sort them himself if he feels that strongly about them. If he wants to cause a row let him try but just don't get drawn in.

Just say you've done it
He'll never know you haven't

Unfortunately I can't get to the post office myself so he'd know I hadn't done it. A little lie would save the hassle though..ah well.

I'm not going to let him nag me to do it and also not going to get sucked into a dispute.
He's possibly playing on my guilt of not being able to do much to help out.....intentionally or not I don't know.

If I feel up to it I'd rather do something more constructive than sending cards. It seems like such a waste or energy, resources and time.

You don't need to go to the post office only to a postbox

YANBU. I only send to people who aren't on social media, so 6 altogether. I'd prefer not to send any, and I don't like receiving them either as I think it's a waste of money and it means sod all to me. As Laiste said, if he feels strongly about it perhaps he should send them himself.

I don't send half as many as I used to and I've culled about 10 more this year.

I really like getting cards for on people I know well and our neighbours. Sending a card to great Auntie what's her face in Australia, who I've met once in my life, seems mad to me.

It's fine! I send cards both by post, and pooping them through people's doors. I like receiving cards too. But it doesn't bother me if particular people don't send me a card, in fact i would probably not notice. I would be a bit sad if I got no cards but that's very unlikely.

Pooping! Popping. Popping.

I do send them but I think it is odd to do it to people you see all the time or people who will be with you at Christmas. I also don't get the parents sending a card and then the baby sending one. I honestly don't know many six month old babies who are likely to send their own cards and yet I receive some every year.

I do like them on the mantlepiece but I don't think my husband has a clue if I have sent any or if we receive any. He used to send them to people at work but has never bothered otherwise.

If you aren't well and it would be tiring then you aren't being unreasonable to say no. I think I'd ask him why it is suddenly such a big deal.

maroon pooping Christmas cards through their letter box😂

grannytomine I really have no idea why it's so important to him this year. It's either a) because he wants me to be doing something constructive while he runs around running our business and looking after me and feels a bit of resentment at all my free time or b) he thinks it'll be good for me to have something to do and get in the Christmas spirit...or c) a bit of both.

I don't send nearly as many as I did, partly because I simply can't be bothered to go and stand in a queue in the post office to buy stamps for the overseas cards.

I prioritise some elderly relatives and family friends and a couple of people who are not on social media,

Happyhippy, I hope it is b as at least he means well even if it is annoying.

Oh well, nothing more was said about sending cards. Instead he's determined to now make a bit over budget and fiddly dish for family meal over Christmas instead of an easier and cheaper one......when he keeps telling me he's overwhelmed with everything he has to do. I'm not protesting/arguing and just letting him get on with it as that's what he wants to make. I actually think he's excited about Christmas which is nice.....and he wants to make a "thing" of it. (Our kids are young adults now.)

Hope he makes it nice for you and he enjoys it.

Thanks granny