AIBU and over expectant?

[Lollabonk]

So for my birthday DP has given me a coat I chose, not wrapped up, and a card. He hasn’t got me anything from the children. Just bloody £1 token gift so they could have had something to give me would have been fine. He says the coat is from them too as it was expensive (£60).

The coat is broken and the shop don’t have another one, I’ve been having to ring around for an hour.

DP is now sulking because he says nothing he does is ever good enough. He says I have to understand it’s an expensive time of year. A bloody cake costs £5!

For his birthday I took him abroad and gave him several gifts from me and the children. Not expensive but well thought out. Also spend hours making him a cake.

He’s had the past week off work and has just been sat around!

Well you know for his birthday to do naff all. Let the dc make him a card and that's it.
I would be treating myself more often too.

My dc have just made me a present out of Lego

People have such a range of expectation for birthday though. Personally I think, unless for a “big” birthday, your approach is OTT. But each to their own.

You can hardly blame him for the fact the coat is broken though! These things happen

Yeah I know, I’m not blaming him for the coat, it’s just annoying. The customer services are shit and unhelpful

£60 coat isnt that expensive really, and why wasnt it checked that it wasnt broken before buying it?

I share your pain though of having a birthday near Christmas. The amount of times people buy me a Christmas present and go 'its your birthday present too' is really annoying. It makes me want to go to people 'heres your birthday present, its also your christmas present' through the year. Yeah its an expensive time of year, but its not like we just suddenly decided 'oh by the way my birthday is tomorrow'. Save up for it and plan, its not difficult.

Just do nothing for him and see how he likes it. Sorry for the rant, but it so annoys me when people use this excuse for when people have birthdays around Christmas. It wasnt our decision to have this birthday.

men are just useless at certain things, think we just have to accept it.

my christmas present is sat on the side in DP's office room. i know what it is so it doesn't matter but i said last night

me "are you going to wrap that?"
him "yeah, have we got any paper?"

me "yes in the wardrobe"
him "oh can you get it for me"
me "do you want me to f**king wrap it for you too?!"

Don't do nothing for him just a present around the same price mark unwrapped and nothing from the kids no cake and say I thought that was how we do birthdays now.