Me and my sister are very close but also very different ... I have four children she has one.... her child is an only child through choice as in her words she got her girl (she’s 7) so didn’t need to try again.
My issue with her is that she is very suffocating towards her daughter, she won’t go out anywhere without her daughter... so doesn’t go on date nights, nights out or even go around to friends house unless her daughter is invited, she won’t even let her husband look after his own daughter and this has led to a very distant relationship between their daughter and her father.
She worked at the same nursery her daughter attended and has now started working at her school.
She refuses to let her daughter become independent in any way and even cuts her food up for her and dresses her.
Her entire life revolves around her daughter but recently become annoyed that the school didn’t realise her daughter had a father who she lives with as she tends to go to parents evenings and meetings without him,
I appreciate having four children means I don’t tend to overprotect them too much and they are naturally more independent and resilient and I also appreciate that everyone parents different and my style is far from perfect but her little girl has become very needy and emotionally distraught every time her mother leaves her at school for example.
I know my sisters background and abuse was never a factor in her childhood as far as I’m aware but she seems to discourage her child from having any kind of relationship with her father..... recently when she had to go to hospital with pneumonia she insisted our parents came to look after her child.
I want to tell her to let her daughter be a bit more independent and to encourage more
Of a relationship with her dad but actually think she will get offended... do I say something????