What is actually reasonable?

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So long and short of it is that I live in a terrace house and I have two small children. They are noisy, and up early. There are also SEN issues with at least one.

So about ten minutes ago, they were having a particulary noisy moment downstairs and one of the neighbours thumped on the bedroom wall so hard the wall vibrated.

The neighbours have complained before, I'm not insensible of the noise my household can generate, we have taken steps to reduce noise (we now take the kids downstairs as soon as they wake up, they have sanctions for being too noisy upstairs etc).

But I'm not at a point of how much noise is actually reasonable? It's 7am on a Sunday morning, am I suppose to stop the kids playing downstairs now?

This is really upsetting, I'd just about calmed down from the last complaint.

When I say noise, they're just playing with their toys. We do shush them etc, but it's at what point do you have to live and let live etc.

Depends on the people really. If your neighbours don't have children, work nights or generally work hard during the week I can see why they would be angry at noise so early on a Sunday morning. Maybe offer them noise cancelling headphones as a good will 😂😂

Erm, stop them being noisy at 7.00 on a Sunday? We used to live in a semi detached and every Sunday we would hear the Sunday night madness of the kids next door (get homework done! Get uniform ready! Get to bed) and it did make us laugh as it was like clockwork. Every now and again the girls would have screaming matches, kids do. We could put up with it as it wasn’t very often. If it was every morning and early though, yes I would complain. You are in the room with them so can’t you stop the loudness before it escalates?

Take away the noisy toys until later in the day. Find a quieter activity for them when they get up.

If the neighbour can make the wall vibrate I'm guessing they're quite thin walls.

I encouraged my DC to play calmly and quietly in the house for my own sanity.

If they're not screeching or playing drums/recorder I'd ignore the neighbours - there's only so much you can do.

Yeah I get the 'stop them from being noisy', however am I supposed to stop them playing completely? Theres always going to be some noise with children.

Yeah the walls are thin, we can hear them shouting at the kids, music through the walls and going to the loo etc.

It is anti social to allow your kids to be noisy at such a time.

You need to find ways of keeping them quiet.

If I was your neighbour I would bang on the wall too.

Oh I think this thread has posted twice. Oops!

Are the kids downstairs playing on their own? If they are perhaps it would be better if you were with them and steered them into a quieter game. It's just you saw the bedroom wall vibrate which seems to say you weren't with them downstairs. Even if they are of an age to play on their own if they can't do it quietly they need you there to referee and guide their play.

Are you in bed OP? And your kids rioting downstairs?

Dancing my husband was downstairs with them, there is no way I'd leave them on their own. They'd set the house on fire.

My dh and I have discussed it, we are going to try some other techniques with them.

Encourage quieter games until about 8ish. Puzzles, colouring, even the tv on for a while.
Then after that time it seems a bit more socially acceptable to be noisier.