Hi, my first post here although I've been a long time reader.
We've lived in our current property (tenants) for 2 1/2 years and have 3 DCs. At the end of August, a new person moved in upstairs. The first month he was here was full of loud music and parties, and banging from furniture building (he must have more furniture than IKEA!)
After trying to speak to him in person a few times and either missing him because he was out or him not being able to hear our knocking over the music, we wrote a letter in which we said how much the noise was disturbing us and could he please keep it down.
The noise reduced a lot, although there was still loud music and voices at least once or twice a week, it was a bit more tolerable. At least once every two weeks, I was woken up at 2/3/4am by him coming in from being out and making loads of noise. I have tried really hard to be reasonable, as I'm sure my kids make noise, but all this still left me feeling a bit stressed.
Last Saturday, there was a VERY loud gathering from about 8pm-10pm, when the music suddenly went off and we heard no more.
Tonight, there was loud music and voices from 8.30pm-11pm, and then they all went out. It was so loud, we had to have subtitles on the TV, but luckily our kids slept through it. We went to bed at 11.20pm and then when noisy neighbour and his friends got back in, I was woken up at least 4 times, until 4.05am when I laid there listening to the noise of the voices, getting ever more stressed and anxious. They shut up at 4.30am, but I haven't been able to get back to sleep since then.
AIBU to think this is unacceptable? I don't want to cause frictions between us, as if I piss him off, he can definitely make our lives impossible, and moving properties is not an option for us for at least a year (financially/logisitically). Am I just going to have to put up with this once a week until we can move?
Would really like opinions on how much noise you'd think is acceptable, just part of living in a flat, you just have to put up with etc. And also how best to manage this in a diplomatic way.
Apologies if this doesn't make sense in places - not much sleep!