AIBU to say everyone judges?

[BelfortGabbz]

I do, probably everyday. Most of the time unconsciously.
Reading some topics tonight I noticed if someone ventures an opinion on appearance they were slammed for 'judging'
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Yet on the 'Lets all watch this TV show and get drunk' threads no one was accused of judging when pulling personality and clothes to shreds, it seems acceptable in a 'party' atmosphere.

We all judge, stop pretending you don't.

I think it's true to say we've all got some preconceptions. I know I certainly have. But I do properly try to keep them in their box and not let it influence me.

Of course we all judge. Some more than others.
I think the trick, is to strive not to judge quite so much.

I try to avoid it generally. I don't judge based on appearance or clothes (I'd have some cheek as I'm not exactly perfectly groomed myself, it's not something I put much value on).

But if someone is racist/homophobic/sexist - then yes, I judge.

We all carry internal biases - consciously or otherwise, it's human nature.

Wrt the point you're making, I think there's a difference between the commentary made on threads that are following e.g. Strictly or X-factor type of shows and curiously wondering why the woman on your 06:45 train to Paddington seems to have drawn on her eyebrows with a sharpie. You could argue that by taking part in an entertainment show you have invited attention whereas your woman on the train probably just wants to get to work with as little fuss as possible.

Yes but there’s having preconceptions and there’s being nasty. I try not to judge anyone.

I agree. Everyone make some snap judgements on people.
Someone in scruffy clothes that look like they’ve been sleeping rough and someone in a smart suit. You will make judgements on those people. I’m not saying what those judgements are but you will judge.

Two women, each pushing a pushchair. One in stained ill fitting clothes, looking a mess, one head to toe in Boden.
Again, you will make judgements.

Of course everyone judges.
We all make a judgement of a situation everytime we look at someone or something or hear people talk. It is how we keep safe. It is how we make friends. It is how we socialise. It is how we decide what coat to wear (if any).

Hopefully, most of us will make that assessment when we first see someone and not let if affect the way we speak to them, or treat them, or whatever, but we will still have made judgements from what we see.

Everyone judges, but most manage to keep it inside, not express it verbally or start a thread on MN about it.

Yes, everyone judges, although you wouldn't think so reading the replies to some of the innocuous comments on here.

Of course everyone judges.
We all make a judgement of a situation every time we look at someone or something or hear people talk. It is how we keep safe. It is how we make friends. It is how we socialise.

This.

It's instinctual, absolutely normal and should not be discouraged. We do it for our own benefit so vocalising our "observations" is of course unnecessary.