Christmas Cards

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I’ve been a serial lurker for almost two years as shameful as that is but I was hoping you lovely people can give me some advice.

I had this plan of not sending Christmas cards this year as id really like to donate to a homeless charity instead. Rather than 1p go to the charity through Christmas cards purchase like it says on the small print of most of those boxes.

I done so and was just about to send a text out apologising for the lack of Christmas card but hope the donation is better than something that will be taken to landfill in January. (Ok so not quite like that but you get my drift)

My husband thinks I’m being a CF. So I said I would defeat the object and still send Christmas cards but add a note that I have donated. Nothing more to it than it might encourage others to donate too. This is also something that the charity recommends. (They came to our office which is who gave me the idea in the first place)

Homelessness is awful in London and I really want to help give people a safe place to sleep. But he still thinks I’m being a CF.

So do I stick to my original plan of e-cards or send Christmas cards with / without a note of the donation. I’m not here to get flamed. If I do so I will probably run and never come back I’m here for advice before I potentially get flamed from family and friends as a CF

Christmas cards and charity donations are not linked. I don’t send Christmas cards as they are a pain in the arse and also an environmental nightmare. I also donate to charity. I sometimes tell people about my charity donations at Christmas time, but I don’t send cards because I hate the, not so I can donate more to charity.
If you don’t want to write cards, don’t. It’s not CF, it’s just a decision.
Sorry if that’s a bit rambling.

Honestly, people just don't want flappy bits of card everywhere clogging up their homes. There's nothing cheeky about donating instead. I agree with you OP.

Don't send cards. Don't explain. Most people won't even notice and those that do will be glad because they don't have to send you one next year.

Make the donation but no need to announce it.

How have you managed to nativigate a he etiquette surrounding charitable donations thus far? Oris the first time you have ever donated to charity? When you make a donation it's the same as giving someone else a gift or buying yourself a treat. It's all good and well but no one else cares. Telling others is boring at best and attention seeking at worst. Just don't please.

What cardibach said. if you want to donate something, donate. If you can't be arsed to send cards, don't. I got a pack of 20 charity cards from coop for £1.50 and sent them. I also have monthly donations to charities.

Don't tell people you've donated. You'll just look desperate to be known as a good person and it's embarrassing. Also, those people don't know if it's true (not suggesting it isn't) but my friends on fb do this "I'm not sending cards but have given a donation...". How do I know that's true and why can't you do both, or do it without bragging..

Or get cards from www.cardsforcharity.co.uk. Loads of choice and round 70p -75p in the pound goes back to the charities concerned. Not just about the money raised but spreading the word about their work.

Could you send an email card. My dm uses 123 greetings to send her cards out to family abroad.

I'd see a note in a card as being very attention seeking tbh. Like "look at me, I'm such a good person". Just go and do your good thing quietly.

What a great site! I think I might be ordering some also

Shelter is represented too!

Really like the site thank you I will get some. I can’t not respond to people who have already sent cards as I feel like it’s being rude. I will do both & not include anything. It was because the charity said according to their research it spreads the word & encourages other people to donate that I wanted to.

Thanks mumsnet !

I recently stood near a couple in tesco who were deliberating about the packs which give 10p to charity. I thought about suggesting they visit the local Cards for Good Causes stockist but wimped out on the grounds that I might come across as slightly mad. (I work for the organisation - not on commission!) I love it; extremely rewarding and we raise around £6m annually.