To be pissed off ExH DP buying Dandy & Beano for DS

[Offonworksdo12]

My DS is 18. I asked him the other day if he still wanted the Dandy & Beano annuals for Christmas- he’s had them & still has from since he could read. We have 2 boxes that were my Ex’s from when he was a child as well.

He replied ‘ of course- it’s tradition’

I asked him to check his Dad hadn’t bought them already (Ex & I married for 28 years & separated for 18 mths)

Ex has a new partner of 4 months.

He sent me a shitty message along the lines of - it’s my family tradition, you are no longer part of this family so I have asked new DP to get the annuals.

I just feel fucking rage

RJ- That is all he had to say, Yes I have them.

He did need to be say the OP was no longer family or even mention his new partner.
It was rude and unnecessary.

Things like this just make it harder for the son in the long term.

he has made sure his son has the annuals and he's thinking of him

No he hasn't. He told his new woman to pick them up, and he may not have bothered to do that until his son asked about them. So far, no one has actually purchased them. This is clearly a man who delegates things rather than doing them himself, and men who do that for 18 years tend to forget than anyone is doing things. They assume that things magically happen. The comment that "you are no longer part of this family" is absurd. The OPer will always, always, always be her son's mother, whether or not her ex likes it.

What ex has done could also easily ruin this tradition for the son. Another year or two of this nonsense and he may come to hate the series as just a bad reminder of what an arse his father is. After all, a little polite conversations between parents really does make things better for their offspring, even when their offspring are young adults.

Yanbu.

I like @lulujakey’s idea too.

From the OP it doesn't even sound like he was responding to her query - DS asked and the ex sent an entirely unprovoked text to her. Because he's a twat.