AIBU to ask for advice

[kitkatsky]

DP and I have been together for 18 months. There’s an age difference. I’m 32 and he’s 40. I have a DD from a previous relationship. DP would strongly like to be a dad, but feels it’s important to put a limit on the trying for a child as he dsnt want to be patenting a teen in his 60s. I get this wholeheartedly. We’ve been trying since June with no luck. Conceived DD on second month with ex, but do appreciate I’m older now and obv so is DD. DP is now saying we should maybe think about stopping in Feb. I know we’ll be fine if it doesn’t happen, but I know we’d both be disappointed at same time, so with two months to do it had anyone got any tips to help it happen? I’m not stupid- understand lots of sex is key- just wondered if anyone had any “keys for success” eg I know that the morning I fell with DD I laid with a pillow under my bum for an hour. Prob didn’t make th slightest bit of difference but was only time I did that when TTC her.

Since June? That's not that long! I got pregnant with my first at 32 and had another five years later. If you give up in Feb that's not giving it long enough.
What worked for us? Just what the doctor would say - regular sex. Every other day (supposed to give him time to build the sperm back up again).
It didn't take us long to get pregnant this way.

I know, not that long! Wish I’d met him five years ago as he’s def the right guy for me and would be great dad, but I do understand that he dsnt want to be drawing a pension and being a parent...

Does your DH have any reason to think he'll be in bad health in 20 years? A good half of my friends in my teenaged years had at least one parent in their sixties. No problems at all.

Am sure DP will be fine, but he lost his mother when she was mid 50s ( to a random accident) so maybe that’s skewed it for him

He hasn't given it very long has he.