My DSis has been in a relationship with her BF for about four months. Today she told me that they plan on moving in together in February. They seem to be really happy together and I really want to be happy for them but...
She has form. Her last two relationships followed a similar pattern: she moved in with them after a few months, certain character traits became more and more difficult to live with, she left the home and ended up miserably couch surfing at her friend’s houses.
The relationship before this one nearly broke her, but eventually she got herself sorted and got a lovely little flat - which she was so proud of. She finally had a bit of stability and felt in control of her life again.
I worry that, at nearly 40 years of age, she isn’t thinking about protecting herself in this situation. And so when she told me about the idea to move in with current BF i suggested he move in with HER, so that she could keep her flat if anything went wrong. But she says her flat it too small and that moving into her new boyfriend’s flat (his flat mate is moving out) would be cheaper.
I’m not going to say or suggest anything else to her, lest I get her back up. But AIBU to be a bit concerned about her? She’s more like a younger sister than an older sister to me, tbh.