My sister moved to another country over ten years ago and started family life. I usually see my sister at least once/twice a year which has included Xmas a fair bit.
My brother is visiting for the first time for a long weekend with his new GF. I've haven't seen my brother in over 5 years over a silly argument but he prides himself his mentality of 'one strike and you're out'. I have tried apologising, wrote letters, begged for forgiveness (it wasn't really an argument but I was suffering from anxiety as a teen and didn't return his phone calls for a couple of weeks as I knew he wanted to lecture me about college decisions).
Now this is my dilemma, I want my brother to spend quality time with my sis and nephews as he's never really any spent time with them. It's a big deal that he's going to visit as he said he never would apparently doesn't like the country but we've got a feeling his new gf does and they want a cheap holiday. He's incredibly stubborn and I reckon a complete narcissist so if I rock up he'll see it as i'm stealing his thunder. But I do go over there regularly and this Xmas my mum is spending the day with her BF and I don't want to third wheel. I could go to friends' but I'd feel like I was imposting. So I was going to spend Xmas on my own, probably go out with friends on Xmas eve and spend the 25 nursing a hangover watching cliche movies.
The cheapest day to fly is xmas day so he would have a couple of days and Xmas morning with the family (i'll also be jetlagged so i'd be in bed early). He's leaving on boxing day so we wouldn't spend that much time together. I'm more than happy to be civil (I would like to make the peace but that will never happen) I'm sure we can all play happy families for a day over monopoly.
My sis is nervous over him coming as he's extremely judgemental, perfectionist and it's like stepping on egg shells. WWUD?