I am in a hotel room. I have come with my husband and 2 children away for weekend. We have been invited to a party tonight by an old friend in a city we used to live in so know place well. DS is 12, currently signed off medically unfit for school due to his anxiety associated with his ASD. DD is 6, she has PDA.
Kids argued most of night and today and shared room together. Unfortunately we have 2 separate rooms as no family rooms available. I settled kids in, then DH stayed with them until asleep. All evening one of us was in room with them. They woke at half 5 this am.So a wait for breakfast and wait to use hotel pool. Lots of arguing from them both. DD has a shower, keeps coming in and out, slips and bangs her head  She is ok after a rest and cuddle. DS has been asleep for last 2 hours, says he couldn't sleep last night.
I chose a nice hotel, knowing son likes luxury. I knew it had swimming pool where swimming usually calms kids. They do all love hotel.
I just think was AIBU to even try us getting away for a couple of days?! I try to consider what family needs and when FH asked what I wanted to do today said I'd given up as I had previously suggested a drive around old haunts but DS wanted to sleep.
DH gets upset and says he feels lonely as DS pushing him out and both kids wanting me to themselves. It just feels so miserable and restrictive.
I'm having my hair done at 3, thank god. DH has taken DD off and was annoyed at having to be back. I pointed out DS could refuse to come with me even though hairdressers is 5 min walk away and knew that leaving him alone in hotel would really ramp up anxiety when Party tonight is already such a big ask of DS.
I could cry 😢