Would you tell the teacher what these girls did?

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We're in Australia.

DD is 9 and came home from her last day of term with a nice little hair ornament...she said it was a gift from "some of the girls"

Then today she's told me that XY and Z all joined forces and made them...they're very cute...and had given every girl in the class one for Christmas except "M"

They said "We didn't make you one because you didn't invite us to your party"

it's true that M didn't invite the girls to her party....

All the other girls went to M's party and I should point out that M is a sweet girl but struggles socially and these three girls don't...at all. They're a little "gang" and can be mean.

So DD said she thought this was awful to me and that the girls later said "We did make you one but we lost it"

Shall I leave it? We don't go back for seven weeks! Would it be weird and silly to mention it?

I can't bear the thought of M feeling bad. :(

I would say something to the school. They are bullying her through exclusion and nasty comments. Try to get the school to nip it now.

Well done to your DD for telling you.

Yes....DD will always tell me things which make her uncomfortable. I might try to arrange a playdate with DD and M when Christmas is out of the way.

I can't tell school now though...it's shut for seven weeks! Summer holidays collide with Christmas here.

So M had a party and didn’t invite x, y and z. Then x,y and z made presents for all the girls except M.

Sounds petty and I wouldn’t mention it. Her parents can if they feel it is worth it.

I suspect she didn't invite them because they're mean to her though.

Yes it’s bullying, they did it deliberately to make her feel excluded. Not everyone gets invited to every party that’s life, there was no need for them to try and get back at M in this bitchy spiteful way.

Do invite M over to play, that’s a great idea. And lots of praise to your dd you are clearly doing a great job there!

So she shouldn't really care then that she didn't get one. This is petty and normal kid crap, no point mentioning it m might feel crap but then the mean girls probably did when they didn't go to the party.

Lola yes but what 9 year old thinks like that!? None.

they all want to be liked and included. It's not petty. They made fifteen frigging hair thing and missed her out. I'm sure they were handed round with great pomp and ceremony too.

Well Ms parents will know for definite whether there is ongoing bullying so let them raise it with the school if they want to.

It would be nice if your dd looked out for M though.

Agree with others - it's for M's parents to raise if they want to.

But showing the hand of friendship to M (inviting her over for playdates) is a lovely and supportive thing to do.

Heck, if she invited everyone but them to her party, I wouldn't expect them to make her a bracelet.