Apologies - saga!
My husband recently decided (with my complete blessing) to quit his well paid job and start up a consultancy business in his area of expertise. We relocated to a new town within striking distance of London and bought a house mortgage free with the proceeds of selling in London. It was a well thought out move and we have prepared with some savings to cover the period.
Eight months on however there is no sign of any clients on the horizon. He is networking lots and gets in front of quite a few businesses but nothing has come to fruition yet. I know he is working hard on everything.
It was my understanding that if no clients were on the horizon by Christmas that he would start looking for a job locally. When I mentioned this conversation to him yesterday he took it extremely personally. He denied ever saying this, he accused me of being unsupportive and calling him lazy. I never said this but I did say he seemed to lack a sense of urgency to get things moving - he was indeed burnt out I think after quitting. In eight months I have never once said a thing about money or lack of. I have just let him get on with it and trusted his plan.
This morning he was angrier than ever after thinking about it overnight and told me I was obsessed with money and need to see someone (counselor I assume he means) about it. He said I put money above absolutely everything else in life. I find this a terrible accusation but I will concede I do worry about finances a lot. I grew up in poverty with teenage parents and at one stage we lived in a caravan. Although he has been a high income earner for most of his working life, I've always worked part-time too as in the back of my head I DO worry about the "what-if" scenarios of relying on a man for financial stability. I have also held a tight reign on our finances over the years, which is part of the reason why we are in the mortgage free situation now. For this reason I watch the pool of savings drip away with growing dread.
Four months ago I got a part time job here to help bring in some cash, four mornings a week so it fits in with picking up the kids from school etc. It is a contract until May, and I have the option to go full time afterwards which I will of course do, but we would still be short in our outgoings.
We moved here partially for the lifestyle change and also so hubby could see more of the kids instead of working all the hours in the city like he used to. From a family perspective it has been a great move and he is around a lot to help out in the mornings and evenings, which was previously unheard of. He's a great Dad and husband in everything so I have zero complaints from that side.
AIBU to be concerned and to voice those concerns to him, or am I indeed too obsessed with the finances instead of appreciating the family life? At our current rate we have ten months until it's all gone - we've already cut out excess spending - that's so scary to me.
How long have others waited for their partner's businesses to take off?
Please be gentle, first time posting!