To rather spend time alone than with friends?

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I’m the type of person who never gets bored even if I spend days on end by myself. I have hobbies and interests that keep me busy, and enjoy just chilling out alone in the evenings and watching films etc.
I have an OH who I don’t live with and we see each other 4 evenings per week. I also see family once a fortnight and maybe the occasional cinema outing or meal out with a friend once a month.
I told someone at work recently that I live like this and she was shocked and said she’d be driven mad with boredom and she likes to socialise as much as humanly possible every week.
AIBU to not care about having lots of friends?

OP how do you feel about being away from home? Because I hate it. Another thing people find weird. But even 1 night away, I'm like....really? Must we?!

@nyx1 I’m the same. Going home to family for Xmas is always nice but I’m always itching to get back to mine by the end of it. Same with holidays - I have a lovely time for a few days and then just want to be at home.

OP glad it's not just me. Haven't been away for more than one night for a couple of years now.

Urgh!

I’m so with you! Although possibly worse... I’m in my thirties now and used to be really sociable but now I just don’t want to see people often at all.

I used to have a rule: divide day into 3 and don’t have plans for more than 2. Now it’s more like once a month.

I don’t feel anxious in company and love to socialise, Just really, really rarely. Feel like a total weirdo about it so your thread made me smile!

I’m an introvert too. Making small talk with total strangers is my idea of total hell - esp when you introduce loud music of the sort you get in pubs etc.

I can’t lipread for shit so I don’t even know what they’re saying and end up stood there like a numpty trying to school my features into a slightly less gormless expression.

I so hate making small talk....prefer to be with DH and the dogs...sofa surfing and watching films and box sets, reading playing scrabble. I used to want to be out doing things all the time....now I am getting older I feel more protective of my time and I choose to spend it as I want to....sounds really selfish I know but I have spent so much of my time doing and seeing people feeling that I had to I just can't do it anymore. I will probably land up a recluse somewhere and a real saddo but at least I will be happy

I'm like you op, I like people and get on with them, but I prefer to just crack on with stuff I like or need to do, if that means on my own and or that I don't have close friends I'm ok with that I'm happy either way and I have had folk think I'm odd for that but what I find more odd is once at work we broke in to teams I'm happy slotting in anywhere but one person asked supervision if I could swap teams as all her friends were in my team, my gut feeling was oh grow up how old are you 4? So I suppose some people need others more and people like me can crack on either with or without folk.

I am quite happy on my own, though rarely get the chance with DH and DC around. Most people think I've an extrovert, I am friends, up to a point, with a lot of people. However aside from maybe 2 other people I'd prefer to be on my own. I potter, play instruments, write, think, read, exercise. Once spent 6 weeks pretty much on my own fairly happily, except for singing show tunes to a dead sheep.

DH likes to socialise all the time, can't think of anything worse than being on his own. Drives me a bit mad.

I'm pretty introverted but I do love to socialise as well - I must be somewhere in the middle. My friends are very important to me but since we all have kids/busy lives we don't get to see each other every week but once a month we always do something (sometimes a couple of times a month if lots is going on like at Xmas). I'll try and see my best friend (more like my sister) at least twice a month. My family I don't see loads - probably every other month. I make time for friends always though - sometimes I don't fancy a night out but make myself go as I know I'll have fun and I don't want to drift apart from them. It happens very easily.

But my home is my space and I don't like having people over a lot (bar the odd party). I love it when DH is away and when he starts inviting people over I get really grumpy .

Anyway do what you like OP - who cares what your colleague thinks?

Pollaidh " Once spent 6 weeks pretty much on my own fairly happily, except for singing show tunes to a dead sheep"

This could be interpreted as, you didn't enjoy singing show tunes to a dead sheep. Or does the deceased sheep count as company? I'm confused. Also vegetarian so no disrespect to the sheep

Spent this weekend alone watching films, going for walks, cooking and reading. It was bliss! Going to the cinema later with my partner which I’m looking forward to. I think my ideal balance would be 75% alone and 25% with partner/friends/family. Luckily he likes spending time alone too so totally gets me

Nyx1 My only company was a dead sheep. I sang show tunes to it, and myself, to give myself a bit of (live) company. There were live maggots of course but generally I was on my own. And happy.

Poll, I'm pretty sure that a psychologist would say singing to the dead sheep counts as needing company

If you sang show tunes to yourself, not so much

These are conversations I rarely have with my friends

My DP has gone home for Xmas now (we don’t live together or have kids and we come from opposite ends of the country so we spend Xmas apart). Had a lovely evening together last night but I’m looking forward to a few days by myself to relax before spending 3 days with family. I’m sure i’ll be itching to get home after that

Live how you want. Although OP I would hate your life. I live with my DP, and see friends at least twice a week, often 3 or 4 times a week.