Gift to godchild

[OrlandaFuriosa]

Background, two of my godchildren are cousins and very close, one spends a lot of time with the other. I know one set of parents better than the other through circumstances but like both lots.

So I bought some of those Ikea ginger biscuits to decorate for both kids , to do with their mums, explained what they were and how to use to one lot, who told the other. One lot did. The other mum just ate them as they were in the car, she was hungry and they were nice. That godchild ( 5) was upset as it meant S/he couldn’t do the fun thing with mum.

Fortunately I had another pack that I was going to use with someone else but can replace and have sent it round to ensure godchild will be able to do, this time with cousin...

AIBU to be a bit shocked and a bit cross, even though it’s minor? godchild was disappointed and let down...

But should I assume that I need to ask/tell Mum each time if I send something round for godchild that she might like herself?

That Mother is awful and greedy.

YANBU to be shocked but some people are selfish fatties and others aren't.

What the mum did was awful and wrong. Perhaps next time wrap the gift so it has to be opened? That might help.

As wrong and awful as I think the mum was, I think Cheap's message is worse. "selfish fatties"? what a horrible remark.

some people are selfish fatties and others aren't.

I don't recall OP mentioning the woman's weight.

I used fatty as a description of a greedy person. Perhaps I should have said "greedy" instead.

Definitely a selfish chub. Not everyone has self-control.

Weigh was not mentioned!

I am fat but I don't steal biscuits from children. Being overweight doesn't equate to moral failing.

Obviously the mum was very much in the wrong, but it isn't the child's fault so I'm glad you can replace them.

She’s not fat ( I am! ) but I think not very conventionally maternal..single mother under huge pressure, adores her child but finds it hard going, as indeed did I . Her child cried....

I’m just going to have to think of different ways through, eg as suggested wrapping stuff with clear instructions. Thank you for that thought.

Anyway, godchild now has stuff to do with cousins, perhaps they can all do on Christmas Day when they’ll all be together. Or sometime.