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user7654321 · 2017-12-15T22:45:09+00:00

The guests are my Brother and SIL who arrived this morning and are asleep. DS is asleep in his cot (19 months). I am on my way home from work xmas party. 30 min walk from station or 5 min drive. It’s cold and I’m a little drunk. Should DH leave them all sleeping to come and pick me up (or wake DB to warm him?)

PortToTheLeft · 16/12/2017 07:46

**toopeoply

Derailment... Smoke inhalation obviously kills, which is why fire service have a stay put policy. And general fire safety advice is to close all the doors before bed. A normal bedroom door wouldn't burn through for approx 20/30 minutes. Stay where you are people, call from bedroom. Fire service would be there within minutes to extinguish fire, vent property and walk you out your front door. **

I didn’t know that. Very interesting, thank you!

PortToTheLeft · 16/12/2017 07:47

How does the bold thing work?!????

Skittlesss · 16/12/2017 08:31

Gosh, I've had shits that take longer than the OPs husband took to pick her up and return. I'm sure the child would have been fine.

EmilyChambers79 · 16/12/2017 09:26

I don't understand why you didn't pre book a taxi for a Christmas night out where you would be drinking.

There's a similar thread going on where a man is on a Christmas night out and wife offered to collect him which was met with cries of, "it's his responsibility to get himself home" "he's a grown up" etc yet this one, the poster is being advised to get her husband to come and get her etc.

Gwenhwyfar · 16/12/2017 09:27

"I don't understand why you didn't pre book a taxi for a Christmas night out where you would be drinking."

Because she lives 30 minutes' walk from home!

EmilyChambers79 · 16/12/2017 09:47

Because she lives 30 minutes' walk from home!

And?

Butterymuffin · 16/12/2017 09:56

It's not as if OP's house moved further away while she was on her night out.

BertrandRussell · 16/12/2017 09:59

She was planning to walk. Which might have been better for her because she would have been saved from the towering inferno that would have been the inevitable consequence of her daring to remove her magic protectiom from her children for a whole evening.......

LBOCS2 · 16/12/2017 10:07

Modern houses and those with recent loft conversions (probably) have 30 minute fire doors. Regular, older doors do not provide the same sort of safe compartmentalisation that fire doors do.

However, they do block smoke to some extent and whatever the state of your doors, you should shut them before bed as it does help prevent the fast spread of fire within your house.

Unless you have been told otherwise in the event of a fire you should make an attempt at a safe exit.

MargotLovedTom1 · 16/12/2017 12:40

It's the same as a parent (usually a beleaguered mother) daring to leave her children in the car on a garage forecourt while she nips in to pay for petrol. The chances of the car randomly bursting into flames are apparently VERY VERY REAL but only likely to happen when there are children alone.

Rachie1973 · 16/12/2017 12:46

Azerothian

I’m glad you’ve been lucky enough not to experience a (much more common than you realise) house fire.

Super assumption there. I actually lost the top floor of my house 13th Feb 2001. So I have experienced a fire, it was teatime and I and my 3 kids escaped with minor issues.

And yet I still say the original question is a non starter to me. It wouldn't register on my fear radar

Gwenhwyfar · 16/12/2017 22:33

"Because she lives 30 minutes' walk from home!

And?"

And, you asked why she hadn't pre-booked a taxi and I replied that it was because she lived walking distance from the station.
What's difficult to understand?

EmilyChambers79 · 17/12/2017 04:48

And, you asked why she hadn't pre-booked a taxi and I replied that it was because she lived walking distance from the station.
What's difficult to understand

What's difficult to understand is that she knew she was having a night out, she knew it would be cold, she knew she would be drinking. Why not pre book a taxi to be there from when she gets to the station to get her home safely and not leave her "vulnerable" on the walk back. A 5 minute taxi ride wouldn't break the bank and save a 30 minute walk and having to drag her DH out of the house to get her.

EmmaGrundyForPM · 17/12/2017 05:01

We used to live a 30 minute walk from a station. Pre booking a taxi would have cost at least £30 so I never did it. Maybe other people have that sort of money to burn but I don't.

I would have done exactly as the OP did snd planned to walk home. If I'd then realised that there were other adults in the house I'd have rung my dh and asked for a lift. I wouldn't have expected him to wake up sleeping guests to tell them he was going out for less than 10 minutes.

EmilyChambers79 · 17/12/2017 05:35

We used to live a 30 minute walk from a station. Pre booking a taxi would have cost at least £30 so I never did it. Maybe other people have that sort of money to burn but I don't

She said a 30 minute walk or 5 minutes in the car. You don't pay for pre booking a taxi, you pay for the journey. Our train station is 7 mins in car and costs less then a tenner. £6 to be exact.

Again, it's just piss poor preparation. Why not organise how you are getting home before you go out?

Surely you know a 30 minute walk in the dark and cold and drunk tipsy isn't ideal and would plan for the lift home.

Not go out, then spend 10 minutes debating it on Mumsnet about it before deciding what to do?!

BrizzleDrizzle · 17/12/2017 05:50

Why can't an adult make a decision about something so simple without having to ask MN?

BitOutOfPractice · 17/12/2017 06:17

Modern houses and those with recent loft conversions (probably) have 30 minute fire doors. Regular, older doors do not provide the same sort of safe compartmentalisation that fire doors do.

Modern houses do not have fire doors. Apartment entrance doors and doors to integral garages are the only doors which have to be fire doors.

Regular internal domestic doors will not withstand fire for 30 minutes.

Ikeptthemwithmebabe · 17/12/2017 06:26

I wouldn't be considering a fire risk or other disaster - seems disproportionate to me in such a short space of time. I can see how if you have had a bad experience that might factor higher.

I would be thinking about the baby waking up and no one going to him (because the other adults are unlikely to respond).

The chances of him waking in that 10 minutes are I assume small, and it would only be a matter of minutes before his parents were back.

So I'd probably go. Id be sad if I got back and found him crying for me but really that would be silly, because just going to the loo could mean you couldn't immediately respond to crying.

But I also leave my DC in the car to run into the shop/garage.

Everyone has different fears. Not always rational. I feel sick when my DC land upside down on their heads at soft play. I hate watching them tumble and fall around or balance on high walls etc.
A sleeping child contained in a cot for a few minutes seems OK.

isitme88 · 17/12/2017 06:49

Actually I would be considering an accident whilst op and her oh we're in the car. That's the risk and know one knowing at home. But it's fine op got picked up and home within ten mins.

Splinterz · 17/12/2017 06:53

MN would rather a drunk tipsy vulnerable woman walked home and got attacked so they could smote breasts and say "oooh it doesn't mater what shes wearing - so long as the bairns have three adults asleep in the house with them"

NerrSnerr · 17/12/2017 07:03

MN would rather a drunk tipsy vulnerable woman walked home and got attacked so they could smote breasts and say "oooh it doesn't mater what shes wearing - so long as the bairns have three adults asleep in the house with them"

Really! What I took from the thread was that some people were saying that they should just let the guests know that he’s going out for 10 minutes. That’s all. No big drama.

EmmaGrundyForPM · 17/12/2017 07:30

She said a 30 minute walk or 5 minutes in the car. You don't pay for pre booking a taxi, you pay for the journey. Our train station is 7 mins in car and costs less then a tenner. £6 to be exact.

And our station is in the middle of nowhere, so you have to book a taxi from the town 11 miles away. So you have to pay the fare from town to the station, then station to home, then back to town again. Which is about £30. That's why I said I would walk rather than pay £30.

Not everyone lives in cities where taxis and Ubers are 10 a penny.

Killdora · 17/12/2017 08:21

Really! What I took from the thread was that some people were saying that they should just let the guests know that he’s going out for 10 minutes. That’s all. No big drama

Exactly.

Psychobabble123 · 17/12/2017 08:42

MN would rather a drunk tipsy vulnerable woman walked home and got attacked so they could smote breasts and say "oooh it doesn't mater what shes wearing - so long as the bairns have three adults asleep in the house with them

Oh for crying out loud, how fucking dramatic is this! Its half an hour, without question if I hadn't bern sensible enough to pre-book a taxi I would have walked. Not a chance would i be waking guests or anyoneelse for that matter!

Gwenhwyfar · 17/12/2017 10:42

"What's difficult to understand is that she knew she was having a night out, she knew it would be cold, she knew she would be drinking."

But she could walk home, if necessary, so no need to pre-book a taxi. Also, if you pre-book a taxi you need to go home at a pre-arranged time, which takes all the fun out of going out.