DS4 had always struggled with behaviour at nursery/school. Very figity and doesn't always do what he's told to straight away (he's pretty good at home, can be defiant but usually kind and considerate).
He is very bright, easily reads literally anything (read pedestrians today with no bother, I haven't come across a single word he can't read phonetically plausible or otherwise) and good with numbers (can read numbers to 4 digits add and subtract and is beginning to multiply. He could count to 20 at 18 months) he has great general knowledge too but isn't keen on writing (spells brilliantly but struggles with motor skills aspect of it and the fact he can't do it well instantly unlike everything else).
He can struggle socially and doesn't do peer pressure or need anyone else. I am insistent he behaves well at school and try hard to support his teachers but DH, DM DF etc all think they are being too hrs on him and that I'm letting him down by siding with the teachers. They think he's just bored and not being stretched (they are still matching amounts to 10 to digits) just been shouted at by husband for thinking there's anything wrong with his behaviour and supporting a crack down from school. DS teacher says it's more frustrating because he's bright and knows right from wrong but makes choices simply to get attention and annoy. Am I a bad mum? I'm being made to feel like I am but I do all pick ups and have always been the one being told about his behaviour.