Do I have to invite friend I was bridesmaid for?

[ChocolateCupcake123]

I was bridesmaid for a friend last year. To be honest I was surprised to be asked - we were friends at school but have barely spoken since. We meet maybe once a year. I agreed and thought it was a lovely offer but the whole thing was a faff and we’ve gone back to barely speaking again now.

I recently got engaged, we would like to do a small wedding - family only and about 5 friends (plus partners) each.

I just don’t want to invite her, there are so many friends I’d rather have there. If it was a big wedding I’d certainly invite her - I do like her. But she’s just not in my top 5, or even 10!

Given that I was her bridesmaid I know that she will be really offended if I don’t invite her.

Is it really bad of me not to have her there? Or do I need to invite her to keep the friendship? And if I don’t invite her, what do I say?

I’m so torn!

Well if you're only inviting five friends then of course you only invite your top 5 friends. That's not childish.

No point in inviting your worst 5 friends.

It's fine not to invite her, but do tell her and explain you're having a small wedding. Or when she finds out she'll feel like shit.

Fluffy I'm speechless, are you still friends with this person?

My best man didn't invite me to his wedding ceremony. We're still friends!

Cantuccit
No point in inviting your worst 5 friends

If the wedding is really that small, nothing wrong with it. Next time you speak just tell her that it's a tiny wedding, basically family only, she will understand.

If family only its ok but l think if you are having friends do invite her. 5 or 6 wont make much difference but leaving her out could be aa big thing for her.